Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me.Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.
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Sep 30, 2026 · 55:24
What happens when one person is willing to grow and the other isn’t, why growth should be an invitation rather than an ultimatum, and why sometimes the most important thing your…
Sep 28, 2026 · 29:59
What if the life you spent years trying to build isn’t the life you want anymore? For most of my life, I was trying to arrive somewhere - make more money, build the audience, get…
Sep 24, 2026 · 19:06
How do you know whether a relationship can last and when it might be time to leave? In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we take on your questions about conflict, attraction, exes,…
Sep 23, 2026 · 23:17
What matters more than love? My answer is capacity. I think we’ve wildly overestimated love’s ability to carry a relationship. You can love someone deeply and still lie to them,…
Sep 21, 2026 · 42:08
What happens when you decide an idea is worth pursuing, even when you don't know where it's going to take you? Kelsey Crane joins me to talk about The Vanishing, her debut novel…
Sep 16, 2026 · 24:25
Some of the hardest truths about relationships are the ones we spend the most time avoiding. I’m talking about the conversations that challenge the way we think about marriage,…
Sep 14, 2026 · 27:29
In this episode, I reflect on what I’d tell myself 10 years ago about losing everything, rebuilding, and learning that security was never really about what I owned. I also share…
Sep 10, 2026 · 17:19
Are you staying because you want to or because you’re afraid to leave? In this Therapy Thursdays, I answer your questions about fading attraction, slow-burn love, situationships,…
Sep 9, 2026 · 38:52
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Shefali who is an NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She is also a clinical psychologist, an…
Sep 7, 2026 · 24:24
I’m answering a few questions about love, desire, affairs, and obsession. I start with a question about losing desire for a husband after having an affair and whether that desire…
Sep 2, 2026 · 24:12
I think resentment is one of the biggest things that can crack a relationship. We get hurt, minimize it, swallow it, and keep moving until all those little things start piling…
Aug 31, 2026 · 25:20
I’ve been thinking a lot about my relationship with God. I believe in God. I believe in something greater. But I’ve realized that believing in God and actually having a…
Aug 27, 2026 · 17:59
Why do we remain stuck in the same patterns, compare ourselves to our partner’s past, or wait for an ex to give us closure? In Episode 26 of Therapy Thursdays, John answers your…
Aug 26, 2026 · 20:46
I’m breaking down the biggest ways I think we sabotage our own healing, relationships, and lives. This conversation came from a post that resonated with millions of people and…
Aug 24, 2026 · 23:37
What happens when I know better but still find myself repeating the same relationship patterns? I answer 10 questions about love, attachment, obsession, loneliness, breakups,…
Aug 19, 2026 · 38:42
What is the difference between loving someone and becoming obsessed with them? In this episode, I explore how love can slowly turn into fixation, fantasy, and emotional…
Aug 17, 2026 · 23:00
The house I grew up in is probably still living inside me. And the house you grew up in may still be living inside you, too. I’m recording from a diner in Mexico City and…
Aug 13, 2026 · 15:55
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, I’m answering the relationship and personal-growth questions we often think about but don’t always know how to ask. What does an emotionally…
Aug 12, 2026 · 29:23
When is enough enough? What if the life you're chasing is based on someone else's definition of success? In this conversation, John Kim and Buddy Wakefield explore the difference…
Aug 10, 2026 · 19:36
What if the biggest factor affecting your mental health isn’t what happens to you, but which container you’re paying attention to? In this personal check-in from Mexico City, I…
Jul 29, 2026 · 19:45
Stop losing yourself to love. What if codependency isn't just about your relationships with other people, but your relationship with yourself? In this episode, John and Vanessa…
Jul 27, 2026 · 25:22
What happens when life forces you to start over? In this personal check-in, John Kim reflects on the unexpected lessons that came from rebuilding his life after losing his home.…
Jul 22, 2026 · 21:45
In this episode, John and Vanessa answer listeners' questions about what healthy and unhealthy expectations are in dating, relationships, and marriage. 🔗 Resources & Links 👉…
Jul 20, 2026 · 23:28
What are you curious about these days? What if taking stock of what you're interested in, and what you're ready to leave behind, could reveal exactly where you're headed next? In…
Jul 16, 2026 · 21:13
What does it actually take to build healthy relationships? In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John Kim answers some of the most common questions about love, healing, attachment,…
Jul 15, 2026 · 24:22
In this solo episode, John Kim shares a collection of personal notes written over coffee in Costa Rica, exploring what he's learning about wholeness, love, masculinity, ambition,…
Jul 13, 2026 · 23:43
When sex changes after having a baby, what happens to the relationship? Becoming parents changes everything, including intimacy. In this episode, John Kim explores what happens…
Jul 8, 2026 · 24:12
What if the promises we make in love are setting us up to fail? In this episode, John Kim is joined by his wife, Vanessa Bennett, to explore how redefining the promises we make…
Jul 6, 2026 · 41:41
Curious about psychedelic medicine but unsure what it actually does? In this conversation, John Kim sits down with Sarah Williams to explore how medicines like MDMA and…
Jul 2, 2026 · 20:56
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John answers your questions about toxic relationships, emotional unavailability, sexting in committed relationships, why it's so hard to leave…
Jul 1, 2026 · 21:52
What if the love you've been chasing was never meant to stay the same? In this episode, John Kim shares excerpts from his new book, Love Hard on Purpose, and explores how love…
Jun 29, 2026 · 17:05
In this episode, John Kim shares two practices that have had the biggest impact on his own life and wellbeing. He explains why reducing your everyday fight or flight state and…
Jun 24, 2026 · 19:25
What happens when you stop chasing and start listening? In this episode, John shares the personal shifts he's working through after moving to Costa Rica. From learning to surf at…
Jun 22, 2026 · 15:54
Dating can feel exhausting, especially when every first date seems loaded with pressure, expectations, and endless swiping. In this episode, John shares five first-date reminders…
Jun 18, 2026 · 19:16
Why is it so hard to let go of someone you know isn't right for you? How do you know when you've healed enough to date again? Can someone truly love you if you don't love…
Jun 17, 2026 · 27:42
In this personal episode, John shares a collection of journal entries and reflections on fear, identity, reinvention, love, writing, and what it means to fully live. From losing…
Jun 15, 2026 · 1:02:19
In this episode, John Kim sits down with Brenden Durell to talk about masculinity, vulnerability, Tantra, intimacy, and emotional growth. Brenden shares his journey from sports…
Jun 10, 2026 · 21:57
Don’t protect your heart. Protect your relationship. In this episode, John Kim explores what it really takes to build a relationship that lasts. After heartbreak, loss, and…
Jun 8, 2026 · 23:45
Why does a breakup feel like more than heartbreak? In this episode, John Kim explores why breakups can feel like a death, and why that experience is rooted in more than emotion…
Jun 4, 2026 · 19:10
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we’re answering listener questions about the messy, tender, and sometimes confusing parts of relationships. We talk about what it means when…
Jun 3, 2026 · 49:46
Joy, trauma, grief, healing. What if they’re all connected? In this conversation, John sits down with Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald to explore what trauma actually does to the…
Jun 1, 2026 · 23:05
What if the thing you keep chasing isn’t actually better... just more familiar? In this solo Q&A episode, John Kim reflects on fantasy, gratitude, emotional presence, and the…
May 27, 2026 · 34:33
John Kim explores what it really means to “seek nectar” in everyday life and why tiny moments of beauty, awe, and presence might matter more than we think. In this solo episode,…
May 25, 2026 · 28:39
Love often starts as a drug. But what happens when the high wears off? In this episode, John Kim explores the difference between “drug-based love” and “medicine-based love,” and…
May 21, 2026 · 17:00
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John answers listener questions about anxious attachment, exes, blame, perfectionism, makeup sex, and relationship myths. He explores how…
May 20, 2026 · 35:32
In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the…
May 18, 2026 · 19:25
What should you really look for when choosing someone to love? In this episode, John Kim explores why attraction alone is not enough to build a healthy relationship. He breaks…
May 13, 2026 · 19:11
This episode starts with a story about peeing on himself… and somehow turns into a conversation about masculinity, emotional safety, relationships, and rebuilding love after…
May 11, 2026 · 31:20
Some relationship patterns aren’t about the present. They’re about wounds your nervous system learned a long time ago. In this episode, John Kim breaks down some of the most…
May 7, 2026 · 18:57
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we’re answering your questions about dating, attraction, conflict, infidelity, and the messy middle of deciding whether a relationship is worth…
May 6, 2026 · 32:04
In this deeply personal episode, John Kim revisits his story with fresh eyes and new perspective. From divorce and failed screenwriting dreams to becoming a therapist, building a…
May 4, 2026 · 19:27
In this episode, John explores why trying to bring a relationship back to what itonce was can quietly hold it back. Instead of restoring the past, he reframes love as something…
Apr 29, 2026 · 24:58
In this vulnerable solo episode, John Kim explores love and sex addiction through the lens of attachment, emotional regulation, childhood wounds, and relationship ruptures. After…
Apr 27, 2026 · 51:16
What happens when two men in their 50s look back at the childhood pain that shaped them and realize friendship can be medicine? John rides in the car with therapist, author, and…
Apr 23, 2026 · 19:04
In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John answers some of the hardest relationship questions people carry quietly: trust after infidelity, emotional disconnection, fading desire,…
Apr 22, 2026 · 24:13
Turning 53 has John reflecting on what actually matters. In this birthday episode, he shares five revelations shaped by loss, growth, love, and starting over. From losing his…
Apr 20, 2026 · 49:02
In this episode, John Kim sits down with relationship expert and author Amy Chan to talk about dating patterns, childhood wounds, grief, commitment, and what it really takes to…
Apr 15, 2026 · 18:46
Love can feel intoxicating. The chemistry, the obsession, the constant thinking about someone, the emotional highs and lows. But just because love feels intense does not mean it…
Apr 13, 2026 · 50:06
What happens when a city-built life gets interrupted, and something quieter begins to call you in? In this episode, John Kim sits down with Brooks Wilson for a conversation about…
Apr 9, 2026 · 22:14
In this episode of Therapy Thursdays, John responds to listener questions about love, trust, identity, and the emotional patterns that keep us stuck. He explores the difference…
Apr 8, 2026 · 26:32
How do childhood wounds, past relationships, and old emotional patterns shape your definition of love? In this episode, John Kim explores how relationship residue turns into…
Apr 6, 2026 · 56:03
In this episode, John sits down for a layered conversation on erotica, desire, safety, and what it really means to feel alive in your life and relationships. They explore the…
Apr 1, 2026 · 45:25
In this episode, John talks with Robin Ducharme about her new book, Real Love Ready, and the deeper work of learning how to love well. They explore grief, forgiveness, childhood…
Mar 30, 2026 · 23:42
John explores how many of us are loving from a definition we never consciously chose. From family dynamics to heartbreak and old emotional imprints, he breaks down how our love…
Mar 26, 2026 · 19:42
In this episode of Therapy Thursdays, John answers listener questions about love, fear, disconnection, self-worth, and the hard decisions people face when relationships no longer…
Mar 25, 2026 · 25:01
In this episode, John reflects on what it means to feel complete and asks a powerful question: what in your life feels unfinished? He explores how so many of us chase worth,…
Mar 23, 2026 · 41:03
In this episode, John explores the link between masculinity, exercise, and self-worth, and how many men learn to chase confidence through strength, discipline, and physical…
Mar 18, 2026 · 18:11
John breaks down why “2x love” keeps people stuck in the same patterns, while “10x love” asks for a total redesign. He talks about self-respect, raising your standards, releasing…
Mar 16, 2026 · 39:48
In this episode, John sits down with Kiran K Aulakh, acupuncturist and craniosacral practitioner, for a conversation about healing, sensitivity, and what it means to reconnect…
Mar 12, 2026 · 22:23
In this episode, John answers listener questions about attachment wounds, commitment issues, trauma bonds, intrusive thoughts, divorce, and the painful question so many people…
Mar 11, 2026 · 21:59
In this episode, John unpacks relationship truths no one really prepares you for. From missing who you were in a relationship, to being healing and still drawn to old patterns,…
Mar 9, 2026 · 45:13
What if ADHD isn’t just about focus… but about a nervous system stuck in survival mode? Therapist Jenna Free explains why many ADHD brains are living in chronic…
Mar 4, 2026 · 30:26
In this episode, I walk through my past relationships and take ownership of the ways I’ve been unsafe. I share specific moments - steamrolling my ex-wife with logic instead of…
Mar 2, 2026 · 27:41
Most of us were never taught how to communicate in relationships. So we react. We defend. We assume. We build resentment. In this solo episode, John reframes “communication” as…
Feb 26, 2026 · 20:21
In this episode, I answer your questions about breakups, expired relationships, and finding the courage to choose yourself. We talk about how to let go when you’re struggling to…
Feb 25, 2026 · 19:21
A breakup can feel like the end of everything. But what if it’s actually the beginning? In this episode, John shares a deeply personal reflection on fear, identity, divorce, and…
Feb 23, 2026 · 22:51
Are you tired of just surviving your past, feeling like old wounds dictate your present? Imagine a life where emotional freedom isn't just a dream, but a daily reality. This…
Feb 18, 2026 · 18:57
What if the thing shaping almost every decision you make is happening quietly — without you realizing it? John breaks down a powerful idea from psychologist and Nobel Prize…
Feb 16, 2026 · 38:42
In this episode, John sits down with therapist Taune for a wide-ranging, honest conversation about the love lessons that shaped them — and the patterns many of us keep repeating…
Feb 12, 2026 · 19:06
In this episode, John answers listener questions about breakups, emotional cheating, boredom in relationships, scarcity mindset, defensiveness, and what it really means to…
Feb 11, 2026 · 19:12
Love doesn’t disappear - it changes. In this episode, John Kim explores the stages of love, from early fantasy to real connection. If you’ve ever questioned the spark, the shift,…
Feb 9, 2026 · 34:38
John sits down in Costa Rica (yes, literally in a golf cart) with two therapists — Vanessa Bennett and Madeleine Downey — for a “therapists are humans too” episode built around…
Feb 4, 2026 · 19:00
Many people reach a confusing moment in their healing journey: they start dating healthier partners… and suddenly desire feels flat. Calm feels boring. Chemistry disappears. In…
Feb 2, 2026 · 39:06
What if the hardest part of healing isn’t pain — but joy? John Kim talks with Dr. MC McDonald about grief, intimacy, self-trust, and the quiet ways we hide when connection feels…
Jan 29, 2026 · 20:45
Some of the hardest questions we bring into therapy aren’t about what happened — they’re about why it hit so deeply. In this episode, we explore the quiet, uncomfortable moments…
Jan 28, 2026 · 24:26
In this episode, John Kim shares a simple moment from the ocean that became a powerful lesson about relationships and emotional repair. While learning to surf in Costa Rica, two…
Jan 26, 2026 · 42:08
What if the problem isn’t that you haven’t found your purpose — but that you’re trying to find something that was never meant to be found? In this episode, John sits down with…
Jan 21, 2026 · 16:57
Do you find yourself giving more, waiting longer, explaining harder — just to keep love alive? In this episode, John Kim reflects on overgiving, emotional boundaries, and the…
Jan 19, 2026 · 58:51
You didn’t marry the wrong person — you’re just in a stage of your relationship. In this episode, John Kim sits down with attachment expert Thais Gibson to break down the six…
Jan 15, 2026 · 18:31
Some of the most important questions we carry are the ones we’re afraid to say out loud — even in therapy. In this episode, John answers real, vulnerable questions about…
Jan 14, 2026 · 26:41
A year ago, on January 7th, my house burned down. This solo episode is a reflection on what that loss revealed — not just about grief, but about meaning, identity, and the quiet…
Jan 12, 2026 · 41:11
In this reflective, unscripted conversation, John Kim speaks with therapist and yoga teacher Daniel Stewart about consciousness, ego, and authentic living. Daniel shares how a…
Jan 5, 2026 · 25:35
Now that 2026 is here, John Kim shares 12 powerful questions to help you live with more honesty, alignment, and intention this year. This episode isn’t about fixing yourself —…
Dec 31, 2025 · 20:13
In this episode of the video course, we explore one of the most powerful concepts in personal transformation: unlocking your inner code. You’ll learn how your false beliefs, old…
Dec 29, 2025 · 19:03
In this lesson, we explore how to move from a life shaped by fear, dread, shame, and survival into a life built on joy, creativity, presence, gratitude, and alignment. You’ll…
Dec 24, 2025 · 31:07
This episode is about the parts of ourselves we don’t easily name. In Part 2, we explore unspoken hurt, projection, scarcity, envy, anger, and intimacy — and how these…
Dec 22, 2025 · 26:10
This episode is about what happens when we slow down and ask the questions that don’t come with neat answers. In an honest and reflective conversation, we explore the inner world…
Dec 18, 2025 · 18:37
In this episode of Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy, we sit down with the questions people are often too afraid to ask out loud — the ones about love, loss, sex, shame,…
Dec 17, 2025 · 24:02
In this module, we explore why healthy love can feel unfamiliar — even uncomfortable — when your nervous system is used to chaos or stress. You’ll learn how your brain adapts to…
Dec 15, 2025 · 19:36
In this module of the video course, we explore why we repeat the same relationship patterns — even when we know they’re not good for us — and how understanding your emotional…
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