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What if the life you spent years trying to build isn’t the life you want anymore?
For most of my life, I was trying to arrive somewhere - make more money, build the audience, get another book deal, buy the house, become somebody. There was always another number to hit, another door to get through, another version of myself I thought would finally let me exhale.
But lately, something has shifted.
In this episode, I talk about giving yourself permission to disappoint the person you used to be. Not because that version of you was wrong, but because you’re allowed to change. You’re allowed to outgrow the goals, identities, and plans that once made perfect sense.
I get into the difference between constantly becoming someone and actually experiencing your life, why ambition can be useful without being allowed to drive, and how easy it is to postpone happiness by attaching it to the next achievement, relationship, body, house, promotion, or milestone.
Maybe the question isn’t, “Where is all of this going?”
Maybe it’s, “Where can I go while I’m still here?”
I also answer an Ask Angry question about knowing when it may be time to leave a marriage - and why waiting for absolute certainty can keep us stuck much longer than we realize.
In this episode, I talk about:
Giving yourself permission to disappoint the person you used to be
Letting old goals and identities evolve without rejecting your past
Why constantly trying to “arrive” can make you miss your actual life
Ambition without letting ambition run your life
Following curiosity without needing everything to be productive
Why happiness becomes a moving target
Recognizing joy while it’s actually happening
Asking whether the plan you’re following still belongs to you
Why certainty may never come when deciding whether to leave a relationship
The questions that can reveal whether there’s still something worth repairing
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