The Truth About Post Separation Abuse – Women’t Stories

We’d all like to believe that divorce stops abuse, but post separation abuse is so common. The truth is, abusers don’t stop wanting power over their victims, even after divorce.

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WHAT IS POST SEPARATION ABUSE?

Post-separation abuse refers to the continuation of emotional, financial, and psychological abuse by an ex-partner after a relationship has ended. It can manifest in various ways, often leaving the victim feeling trapped and stressed. Understanding and identifying the signs of post-separation abuse is crucial for taking steps towards healing and protection.

1. USING THE LEGAL SYSTEM TO STAY IN CONTROL

Post-separation abuse often is enabled by the court system that court orders women to co-parent with men who are manipulative and undermining them, lying to them. It causes so much chaos.

He might be threatening to take you to court or using court orders that are meant to help you co-parent, to make things harder.

2. MAINTAINING FINANCIAL CONTROL

Many men withhold things like child support or alimony so that you have to contact him to get it. That is actually a form of post-separation abuse, and they do it on purpose to make sure that they’re still relevant, that they can control what you’re doing so you have to be put through the wringer of contacting them every single time.

3. MANIPULATING YOUR CHILDREN’S LIVES

Post-separation abuse can also include creating chaos for your children in order to exert control over you. Such as, refusing to adhere to set schedules or neglecting to take your children to extracurricular activities. They may also send subtly intimidating emails. They are difficult to pinpoint as dangerous. But they intend to cause fear and anxiety.

GET THE RIGHT SUPPORT WHILE YOU ARE EXPERIENCING POST SEPARATION ABUSE

At Betrayal Trauma Recovery, we recognize the difficulty of understanding post-separation abuse. And are dedicated to providing the support you need. Our community offers:

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Sessions: Join one of our many group sessions for support, guidance, and understanding from women who have been through similar experiences.
• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Individual Sessions: Receive one-on-one attention and strategies tailored to your situation with our specially trained betrayal trauma coaches.

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• Expert Support: Our professional coaches experienced personal betrayal trauma. They are equipped to help you find peace and protection for yourself and your family.
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TAKE ACTION TO PROTECT YOURSELF DURING POST SEPARATION ABUSE

You don’t have to face post-separation abuse alone. Betrayal Trauma Recovery is here to help you take the steps necessary to protect yourself and your children. Attend a group session today, and join a community that understands your struggles and supports your healing journey.

If you’re going through post-separation abuse, consider enrolling in The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Living Free Workshop to learn the secrets of why an ex would continue to cause chaos after divorce.

WITH POST SEPARATION ABUSE, BOUNDARIES ARE KEY

Boundaries help victims separate themselves from abusive behavior. Boundaries are not:

• Ultimatums
• Consequences for bad behavior
• Mechanisms to control another person’s behavior

Instead, boundaries are courageous actions that victims take to ensure they are as protected as possible from harm. Setting and maintaining boundaries in a divorce is key to navigating post separation abuse.

WHAT ARE SOME BOUNDARIES THAT CAN HELP ME NAVIGATE POST SEPARATION ABUSE?

Remember that boundaries aren’t going to stop your abuser from being abusive, but they are intended to limit your exposure to your ex-husband’s post separation abuse tactics.

Some ideas of boundaries you can set and maintain include:

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