Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships & Trauma Bonds With A Narcissist
Bre Wolta, EFT & Nervous System Practitioner, Relationship Clarity Coach
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Bre Wolta, EFT & Nervous System Practitioner, Relationship Clarity Coach
▶ WebplayerYou have the career, the friendships, the life that looks good from the outside. But behind closed doors you're exhausted, second-guessing every decision, and you can't stop ruminating over the narcissist who is holding your mind captive. Maybe you're still in it — doing more research, trying harder, convincing yourself that if you just figure out the right thing to say or do, something will finally change. Maybe you're out but can't seem to move on — replaying conversations at 3am, wondering if any of it was real, asking yourself why you still miss someone who hurt you this much. Either way, you...
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Jun 29, 2026 · 42:41
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Have you called a relationship quits only to wonder if YOU were actually the problem? This episode is for you if you did the hard thing of stepping back, only to find yourself…
Jun 22, 2026 · 24:51
Are you finally seeing the full picture of what you went through — and wondering how you ever missed it? If you've found yourself deep in YouTube rabbit holes about narcissistic…
Jun 17, 2026 · 19:56
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Jun 15, 2026 · 19:57
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Jun 10, 2026 · 24:17
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Jan 21, 2026 · 15:15
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Jan 14, 2026 · 40:27
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Oct 29, 2025 · 34:06
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Oct 22, 2025 · 17:05
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Oct 15, 2025 · 14:02
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Oct 8, 2025 · 18:06
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Oct 1, 2025 · 19:25
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Sep 24, 2025 · 16:06
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Sep 10, 2025 · 28:47
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Sep 3, 2025 · 19:43
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Aug 20, 2025 · 12:56
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Jul 23, 2025 · 18:15
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Jul 16, 2025 · 40:09
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Jul 9, 2025 · 19:59
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Jul 2, 2025 · 19:14
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Jun 4, 2025 · 15:06
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May 28, 2025 · 16:18
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May 21, 2025 · 42:01
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