145. Am I The Problem? How To Know If You're Doing Your Part To Make The Relationship Healthy

Have you called a relationship quits only to wonder if YOU were actually the problem?

This episode is for you if you did the hard thing of stepping back, only to find yourself emotionally crawling back in — confused, anxious, and questioning if you were the problem all along as you watch your ex make all the changes he promised he would.

Here's what you'll walk away with:

• Clarity on why watching him make these changes leaves you assuming you’re the problem
• Discernment about his "glow up" and why it doesn't automatically mean you overreacted or are to blame
• A real way to measure how healthfully you show up to the relationship

Hit play — then grab the free Relationship Reset Guide linked below, because clarity is the one thing anxiety cannot survive.

QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:

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RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

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🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotes

• Learn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)
• Navigate triggering moments without shutting down
• Feel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationship
• Expand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you

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In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.