You can spend years doing everything life asks of you and still find yourself wondering: How did I get here? How did I get so far from the life I imagined? And how do I start being present IN my life instead of simply being present for it? Below the Circle™ is a conversation for the woman who has spent years caring, carrying, doing, and showing up for everyone else—and is beginning to notice an inner stirring that says there may be more of her own life to experience. I'm Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams, a life coach whose work is shap...
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Sep 30, 2026 · 22:42
What if the quiet you’ve been craving is not a sign that you’re tired of your life, but a sign that you need space to finally hear yourself again? When you are used to answering…
Sep 23, 2026 · 25:20
What if you have become so good at managing your life that you no longer feel fully present in it? There are seasons when caring for others, meeting responsibilities, and simply…
Sep 16, 2026 · 23:42
What if something you have believed about yourself for years is no longer true? Sometimes we carry old beliefs, assumptions, and stories into the present without stopping to ask…
Sep 9, 2026 · 18:59
What if you do not need to start over, but simply need to regroup? Sometimes life moves so quickly that we keep doing what we have always done without stopping to ask whether it…
Sep 2, 2026 · 20:09
What are you still holding on to from the past that no longer fits the life you are living now? Sometimes we keep things because they carry memories, love, grief, or a connection…
Aug 26, 2026 · 23:32
If your life looks good from the outside, but underneath it all you feel worn through, this episode is for you. You can be deeply grateful for your life and still be tired inside…
Aug 19, 2026 · 26:55
If you’re the one everyone calls — the one who picks up, who shows up, who holds it together when everyone else is falling apart — this episode is for you. We’re not going to…
Aug 12, 2026 · 28:23
You've got three things open on your screen, a half-written email, a conversation you've been meaning to have for three days, and a phone that keeps buzzing. You're not behind.…
Aug 5, 2026 · 20:51
She was at the dinner table. Fork in hand. Nodding at the right moments. But inside? She was three days ahead — running the list, managing the room, tracking everyone else's…
Jul 29, 2026 · 24:14
You paused. You gave yourself a moment before you answered. And then — almost immediately — guilt showed up like you'd done something wrong. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis…
Jul 22, 2026 · 26:03
You said yes because you care. So why are you left feeling tired, frustrated, and far from yourself? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis names the “reactive yes,” the answer that leaves…
Jul 15, 2026 · 23:31
You did a hundred things for the people you love today. So why does it feel like you barely saw them? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis names the quiet trade so many big-hearted women…
Jul 8, 2026 · 19:30
What if the weight wearing you out was never yours to carry? You can carry all of it. You’ve proven that. But in this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to pause and ask a deeper…
Jul 1, 2026 · 20:21
What are you afraid would fall apart if you stopped holding it all together? You have been the one who remembers, covers, fixes, plans, and carries what everyone else forgets.…
Jun 24, 2026 · 31:49
Have you been holding everyone else together so long that you fear you’ve missed your own life? You’ve cared deeply, said yes from love, and kept going even when your own heart…
Jun 17, 2026 · 17:23
What weight are you still holding that God has been asking you to release? You’ve been capable, responsible, prepared, and strong for so long that putting something down may feel…
Jun 10, 2026 · 32:07
What grief have you been carrying that you’ve been calling strength? You’ve been busy, capable, dependable, and strong for so long that no one may have noticed how heavy it has…
Jun 3, 2026 · 24:38
Who are you when you take off every name tag you wear? You’ve been so many things to so many people for so long, the woman underneath has gotten quiet. You can’t remember the…
May 27, 2026 · 31:59
When was the last time you were truly present, not planning tomorrow or replaying yesterday? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle , Dr. Phyllis invites you to slow down,…
May 20, 2026 · 19:04
What if the exhaustion you feel is not weakness, but a warning signal asking you to be honest? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle , host Dr. Phyllis speaks to…
May 13, 2026 · 39:46
Are you chasing success, or are you running from the pain you have not named? In this honest and deeply personal episode of Below the Circle , Dr. Phyllis invites you to look at…
May 6, 2026 · 25:19
Why does slowing down feel more terrifying than the burnout already wearing you down? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle , Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who keeps…
Apr 29, 2026 · 10:31
What if the life you’ve been searching for is right below you, but you’ve been too busy circling to see it? In this powerful opening episode, Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who…
Apr 22, 2026 · 43:36
What if the woman everyone depends on is not the real you? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis speaks to women who have spent years being strong, dependable, and needed, yet…
Apr 16, 2026 · 36:02
What happens when staying busy becomes the only way you know how to function? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis unpacks the pattern so many of us live in without questioning. We keep…
Apr 9, 2026 · 20:33
Have you ever caught yourself asking, is this really where I’m supposed to be? Or do you keep moving forward simply because it feels easier than stopping? Some seasons are spent…
Apr 2, 2026 · 24:46
What happens when you realize you’ve been living on auto pilot? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her personal story and draws a powerful connection to the story of the…
Mar 26, 2026 · 26:09
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares a deeper look into her personal journey of breaking out of autopilot and reconnecting with her true self. She opens up about the pressure of…
Mar 19, 2026 · 18:51
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about what it really looks like to move forward when you feel stuck. Not through big, overwhelming changes, but through small actions that…
Mar 12, 2026 · 28:43
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her experience of realizing she had been living in a state of emotional autopilot. While managing the many roles and responsibilities of life,…
Mar 5, 2026 · 17:44
Clutter is not always about being messy or disorganized. Sometimes it is a signal that something deeper is asking for our attention. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about the…
Feb 26, 2026 · 18:32
Feeling isolated is easy, and sometimes it seems like you’re the only one facing life’s challenges. But what makes life meaningful are the small moments of connection. You don’t…
Feb 19, 2026 · 15:08
Have you ever felt like life is just rinse and repeat? You wake up, move through the day, go to bed, and do it all over again. It can feel like you’re circling the same runway,…
Feb 12, 2026 · 15:13
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis reflects on what she describes as God’s wake up calls. She shares about a season when she was moving quickly, focused on doing all the right things…
Feb 5, 2026 · 31:25
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what it means to remain rooted rather than rattled when others do not understand your decisions or the season you are in. As priorities…
Jan 29, 2026 · 29:13
Ever feel like life has slipped into autopilot and you’re just getting through the day? This episode is a reminder that surviving doesn’t have to be the baseline. Thriving can…
Jan 22, 2026 · 14:45
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis joins us to explore what happens when faith, exhaustion, and the pressures of real life all show up at once. You can be faithful, tired, and…
Jan 15, 2026 · 28:46
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what happens in the space between the urge to say yes and the decision to follow through. She shares a personal story from her caregiving…
Jan 8, 2026 · 23:48
As the new year begins, this episode is an invitation to pause. Dr. Phyllis shares why she made the intentional decision to slow down instead of adding more. Less running around.…
Jan 1, 2026 · 20:53
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the shift from living on autopilot to stepping into agency and trusting God with your next step, especially when the path forward feels…
Dec 24, 2025 · 15:36
In this holiday episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the idea of presence over performance, especially for high achieving Christian women who feel pulled into “Martha mode” during the…
Dec 18, 2025 · 24:52
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about something many people struggle with: being kind to themselves when they fall short. So many people are juggling a lot while still showing…
Dec 11, 2025 · 21:35
In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about something we all need more of in our day. A pause. She opens up about what it has looked like to be in the thick of caregiving, how…
Dec 4, 2025 · 16:19
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to pause and look at your alignment—not just your schedule, but the way you’re moving through life. When you choose presence on purpose,…
Nov 27, 2025 · 24:11
Life can feel overwhelming when you’re juggling a lot and running on auto-pilot. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares a moment that shook her and helped her realize the importance…
Nov 20, 2025 · 33:43
This month Dr. Phyllis is doing something meaningful for National Family Caregivers Month with a three part series, and today’s episode is the second conversation in that series.…
Nov 13, 2025 · 16:00
When life feels heavy and the days start to blur together, it’s easy to slip into survival mode without even realizing it. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares encouragement for…
Nov 6, 2025 · 18:36
You might notice something different about the podcast—new name, new season, new energy. Welcome to Awake and Aligned , where Dr. Phyllis guides you to step out of auto-pilot and…
Oct 30, 2025 · 25:13
We all have those days where nothing goes according to plan and life feels messy and out of rhythm. But what if those moments are not setbacks, but invitations to shift your…
Oct 23, 2025 · 20:13
When life feels heavy, our heads naturally bow. Our shoulders tense, our hearts race, and we try to push through. But what if the most sacred thing you could do in that moment…
Oct 16, 2025 · 14:37
Ever felt like you’re doing all the right things, serving, praying, showing up, and still feel spiritually tired? Like your faith is running on autopilot? You’re not alone. Many…
Oct 9, 2025 · 19:12
Have you ever sat down, ready to rest — maybe with your coffee and Bible in hand — and before you know it, you’re scrolling through your phone, your mind already chasing the next…
Oct 2, 2025 · 17:59
Have you ever woken up already exhausted, wondering how you’ll make it through a day that feels heavier than the one before? Have you ever felt like you’re walking in the…
Sep 25, 2025 · 20:50
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about navigating a season of life that looks very different from what she once imagined—balancing the care of a loved one, managing her…
Sep 18, 2025 · 13:08
Ever feel like a past season of life was wasted? On this episode of the Own Your Yes Podcast , Dr. Phyllis reminds listeners that nothing is ever wasted when a yes is placed in…
Sep 11, 2025 · 14:25
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately wondered if you belong there? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how embracing your God-given worth allows you to show up…
Sep 4, 2025 · 21:41
What if the stories that once held you back could actually become stepping stones toward healing and growth? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how rewriting old narratives…
Aug 28, 2025 · 23:44
Ever notice how heavy life feels when everything on your list turns into a “have to” ? I have to get up early. I have to go to work. I have to make dinner. I have to take care of…
Aug 21, 2025 · 19:39
Life doesn’t always go as planned, and it’s so easy to get stuck in frustration, discouragement, or regret. But joy isn’t something you have to wait for—it’s something you can…
Aug 14, 2025 · 36:30
In this 100th episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the truth that joy is not found in perfectly executed plans, but in presence, purpose, and flexibility. Drawing on decades of…
Aug 7, 2025 · 25:53
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis dives into a powerful message about the difference between good intentions and purposeful action. She explores how good intentions, while…
Jul 31, 2025 · 26:54
In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about her personal journey from constantly running on a treadmill of doing, achieving, and chasing the next crisis—toward a life that feels…
Jul 24, 2025 · 23:08
You can be loyal and still feel lost. Faithful but unfulfilled. Stuck in something that once felt right—but now just feels heavy. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is talking about…
Jul 17, 2025 · 21:53
Have you ever felt completely drained—even while doing everything “right”? You’re showing up, checking all the boxes, and still feel off. Dr. Phyllis calls this what it is:…
Jul 10, 2025 · 21:40
You’re the hero in everyone else’s story… but somewhere along the way, you became a ghost in your own. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis is sharing a message that so many women…
Jul 3, 2025 · 24:02
Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who’s craving real connection but feels guarded after being let down, overlooked, or even wounded by past friendships. When trust has been broken,…
Jun 26, 2025 · 20:53
Presence doesn’t show up on its own—we have to create it. That’s something Dr. Phyllis knows deeply, both personally and professionally. In this episode, she shares why making…
Jun 19, 2025 · 24:21
Guilt can be subtle, but its impact is heavy. It clouds discernment, distorts priorities, and often pushes people into cycles of overdoing. It convinces high-achieving women that…
Jun 12, 2025 · 23:53
“Let it go.” “Shake it off.” “Don’t let what they said get to you.” We’ve all heard these lines. Maybe we’ve even said them to ourselves. But what happens when the words don’t…
Jun 5, 2025 · 29:47
When Dr. Phyllis started this podcast, she didn’t have all the answers or perfect timing. What she had was a tug on her heart—a quiet knowing it was time to begin, even without…
May 29, 2025 · 25:37
For so many of us, there's this constant push to perform. You can be doing all the things —leading, achieving, producing—and still feel like it’s never enough. Dr. Phyllis knows…
May 22, 2025 · 28:35
You’ve heard it all when it comes to self-care: grab a coffee, get a massage, sip some tea. But Dr. Phyllis realized something important—real self-care isn’t something you…
May 16, 2025 · 27:56
What if your strength has become your silence? For a long time, Dr. Phyllis felt proud when people called her resilient. The more praise she got, the better she felt about…
May 8, 2025 · 27:56
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and this is the part we often skip over. The unseen. The unspoken. The quiet unraveling that happens when you stay in motion too long, carry…
May 1, 2025 · 19:05
You know those emails marked time-sensitive? The ones that make you pause and pay attention? Consider this your version of that—but instead of a deadline or a task, it’s an…
Apr 24, 2025 · 19:26
There are seasons when life feels like it’s asking a bigger question—one that can’t be ignored or brushed aside. In these moments, there’s often a crossroads: one path is known,…
Apr 17, 2025 · 19:22
How Are You Really Doing? It’s a small question. One we often toss into conversation without pausing to hear the answer. But when asked with intention, How are you really doing?…
Apr 10, 2025 · 17:09
“Why me?” “Why now?” We’ve all had seasons where those questions take over. The conversations play on repeat. The decisions get rehashed. And somehow, we convince ourselves that…
Apr 3, 2025 · 17:33
It’s easy to catch a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror or in a photo and immediately start picking apart every detail. The way our clothes fit, the shape of our body, the…
Mar 27, 2025 · 29:59
Dr. Phyllis used to struggle with being transparent, vulnerable, or truly authentic. In her mind, admitting that something hurt or disappointed her felt like exposing weakness.…
Mar 20, 2025 · 11:02
For years, Dr. Phyllis believed her worth was tied to the roles she filled. She chased perfection, sought external validation, and measured success by what she accomplished. But…
Mar 13, 2025 · 25:53
Your mind is always racing. You’re constantly in fix-it mode, solving problems before they happen. Always preparing, always anticipating. You tell yourself that if you stay…
Mar 6, 2025 · 25:18
Is burnout due to stress or ego? We often think of burnout as a response to external pressures—work, family, volunteering—but it’s more than just stress. Compassion fatigue…
Feb 27, 2025 · 19:12
Have you ever caught yourself going through the motions, only to stop and wonder—did I even lock the door? You drove the usual route, did the usual tasks, had the usual…
Feb 20, 2025 · 22:13
Life is full of twists and turns, unexpected transitions, and moments that make us question if we’re heading in the right direction. But what if every step, every change, and…
Feb 13, 2025 · 20:01
Somebody is going to lose the game. That’s just how it works. One team walks away with the win, the other with a loss. And just like in football, life presents us with…
Feb 6, 2025 · 14:26
Transitions can feel uncertain. Even when change is necessary or positive, it often stirs a mix of emotions. But embracing these sacred shifts allows us to grow, discover deeper…
Jan 30, 2025 · 31:42
Have you ever walked into a buffet and overloaded your plate, only to realize later it was too much? That’s how Dr. Phyllis felt for years—saying "yes" to everything, thinking it…
Jan 23, 2025 · 26:44
Have you ever felt completely drained—like you’ve poured out every ounce of your energy and there’s just nothing left? If you’re nodding, Sis, you might be experiencing…
Jan 16, 2025 · 33:37
Resilience is often misunderstood. Many think it’s about constantly pushing through, checking off tasks, and never slowing down. But this kind of resilience can quickly become a…
Jan 9, 2025 · 30:12
Moving into 2025 is an opportunity to step forward with hope and purpose. While 2024 may have brought its share of breakthroughs and setbacks, it’s important to see it as a…
Jan 2, 2025 · 21:01
In life, we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to succeed. We feel like every choice, every project, and every decision needs to be perfect. But here's the truth: not…
Dec 26, 2024 · 27:44
Living life on autopilot can feel a lot like running on a treadmill—always moving but never truly getting anywhere. Tasks pile up, expectations mount, and before you know it, the…
Dec 19, 2024 · 23:52
The holiday season is here, and along with it comes a never-ending string of parties, events, and gatherings. Invitations pile up, and so do expectations—both our own and those…
Dec 12, 2024 · 20:54
During the holiday season, everything seems magnified. The joy, the connections, the gratitude—but also the pressure, the grief, and the exhaustion. You’re juggling so much that…
Dec 5, 2024 · 25:57
As resilient women, we wear a lot of hats. Caregiver, professional, friend, partner, mentor—the list goes on. We juggle roles with grace, but sometimes, in the rush of it all, we…
Nov 28, 2024 · 17:20
We live in a world that’s anything but quiet. The endless notifications, the to-do lists that never end, and the constant pull to keep going can drown out even our own thoughts.…
Nov 21, 2024 · 20:22
When was the last time you sat in complete silence? Not just a moment without conversation but a true pause- a space free from background noise, notifications or that buzz from…
Nov 14, 2024 · 40:43
What if the heavy burdens you’re carrying were never meant to be yours? Many of us find ourselves shouldering responsibilities that don’t belong to us, whether it's in our homes,…
Nov 7, 2024 · 20:11
As resilient women, we often carry the weight of shame—shame over past experiences, unmet dreams, or goals left unachieved. We’re strong, we’re determined, but sometimes we feel…
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