On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or...
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Sep 28, 2026 · 51:02
For one of the last episodes of Finding Mr. Height, Ali sits down with the two friends she made in a podcasting world she assumed would be cutthroat: Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other…
Sep 21, 2026 · 51:55
Serena Kerrigan went on 50 blind first dates on Instagram Live, and she is still making the same argument she made then: most of us decide who a person is before we have met…
Sep 14, 2026 · 1:00:07
Dr. Katie Rickel is a clinical psychologist and a longtime FMH listener, and over six years of listening she kept collecting moments. Not clinical notes, just things Ali had said…
Sep 7, 2026 · 28:32
After more than five years and almost 300 episodes, Ali is ending the public podcast. In this solo episode she says it out loud for the first time, and then sits with the harder…
Aug 31, 2026 · 51:52
Ali is away this week, so this episode goes behind the Patreon paywall. It pulls together four of her favorite Updates segments from the last few months: designing an engagement…
Aug 24, 2026 · 47:36
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode answering listener questions. She opens with a question about her own path toward getting evaluated for ADHD: what finally pushed her…
Aug 17, 2026 · 59:12
Ali sits down with Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant, a sex and relationship coach and former NYC dominatrix, for a conversation that might surprise you in its relevancy -…
Aug 10, 2026 · 1:00:53
This week Ali sits down with relationship coach Ally Iseman, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, for a full reframe of the emotion we love to hate. Ally's case: jealousy is not a…
Aug 3, 2026 · 48:21
Ali is joined by Skyline for part three of the moving-in-together series, and this time he is in the chair to answer for the version Ali told solo in parts one and two. They get…
Jul 27, 2026 · 1:13:55
Ali is joined by creator Sam Showalter, who went viral for a series about decentering her own husband. Eleven years into a relationship with her now-husband, she realized how…
Jul 20, 2026 · 41:07
We're continuing the multi-part moving-in series inspired by listener questions. In part two, Ali gets into the stuff you can't put in a spreadsheet: sharing a space with another…
Jul 13, 2026 · 47:59
We’re talking all about moving in with a partner in this multi-part series I inspired by listener questions. In part one, Ali breaks down the practical side of moving in with a…
Jul 6, 2026 · 1:02:37
Esin Pinarli, a psychotherapist with 18 years of experience, joins Ali to talk about people-pleasing, attachment, and what she calls modern codependency. Esin breaks down the…
Jun 29, 2026 · 53:21
Alex Wolf, the founder behind the original Boss Babe movement turned tech philosopher, joins Ali to explore what the attention economy is quietly doing to our ability to connect…
Jun 22, 2026 · 38:08
Ali answers five listener questions that all share a common thread: the gap between wanting something and being able to follow through. A first-time manager grappling with…
Jun 15, 2026 · 45:08
This week, Ali is joined by Sarah, a listener who reached out to share her journey with desire and intimacy. Sarah opens up about how her health anxiety quietly muted her desire…
Jun 8, 2026 · 53:47
TW: This episode contains a brief discussion of cancer and loss. If you want to skip it, the guest segment begins at approximately minute 13. Brooke Janousek, founder of Someone…
Jun 1, 2026 · 1:15:20
You're being interviewed, but you're also doing the interviewing. Most people forget the second part. Ali shares two episodes from the Finding Mr. Height Patreon in this special…
May 25, 2026 · 52:19
This week, Ali sits down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who got married at 21, divorced at 27, and moved to New York City to start over from scratch. Sarah shares…
May 18, 2026 · 44:33
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, miscarriage and emotional abuse. This week, Ali is joined by a listener who shares her story of leaving a marriage rooted in…
May 11, 2026 · 57:52
Ali and Skyline are celebrating two years together! Together from Italy, they go deep on what two years actually looks like, covering how they handle disagreements, how…
May 4, 2026 · 51:02
Danielle McGeough joins Ali to talk about what happens after you hit the goal you've been chasing your whole career and realize it doesn't feel the way you thought it would (and…
Apr 27, 2026 · 58:11
Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the culprit, Jordanne breaks…
Apr 20, 2026 · 1:13:23
Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica, the author of Bad Marriage…
Apr 13, 2026 · 1:03:52
Amy Chan returns to the pod for an in-person recording with Ali, a conversation spurned from her own deep attachment work. The two chat about Amy’s new book Unsingle, where she…
Apr 6, 2026 · 53:29
This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks through how that shaped her early…
Mar 30, 2026 · 56:38
Relationship coach and author Meg Tuohey joins Ali to introduce her concept of the HeartPrint, the idea that each of us is as unique as our fingerprints in how we move through…
Mar 23, 2026 · 48:49
Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely…
Mar 16, 2026 · 1:08:51
Ali sits down with Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, for a conversation about the dating advice they both either ignored in the past or wish they’d taken sooner. They dig…
Mar 9, 2026 · 44:33
We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high involvement, low…
Mar 2, 2026 · 43:50
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide…
Feb 23, 2026 · 1:11:51
Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins Ali to break down the latest season of Love Is Blind through the lens of someone who has helped over 1,600 people get engaged or married. They dig…
Feb 16, 2026 · 1:21:14
Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author of Toxic Striving, breaks…
Feb 9, 2026 · 1:03:08
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topics question. She then dives…
Feb 2, 2026 · 1:15:51
This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many…
Jan 26, 2026 · 1:07:36
This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again.…
Jan 19, 2026 · 1:11:48
Ali sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms. Allison shares what it was…
Jan 12, 2026 · 1:08:39
Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel lighter, more confident, and more…
Jan 5, 2026 · 46:38
In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention. She explains her…
Dec 29, 2025 · 46:51
In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a framework from her friend…
Dec 22, 2025 · 1:23:29
In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a…
Dec 15, 2025 · 51:09
Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when you’re dating someone. They…
Dec 8, 2025 · 1:14:25
Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression. This week, Ali is joined by longtime…
Dec 1, 2025 · 57:42
Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dating long distance - we unpack…
Nov 24, 2025 · 1:24:02
This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation starter. If you like…
Nov 17, 2025 · 58:21
In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your…
Nov 10, 2025 · 1:04:29
Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to…
Nov 3, 2025 · 1:07:54
Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how…
Oct 27, 2025 · 59:24
Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of…
Oct 20, 2025 · 1:25:02
If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this week, Ali sits down with the woman at…
Oct 13, 2025 · 1:22:19
Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favorite pieces of dating advice,…
Oct 10, 2025 · 1:05:33
It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of…
Oct 6, 2025 · 1:10:23
We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselves to the pod and give us all some…
Sep 29, 2025 · 1:23:51
Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixon, LPC is here this week to…
Sep 22, 2025 · 58:36
It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends match with the same people,…
Sep 15, 2025 · 58:29
What happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast The Ex Appeal, where she sits…
Sep 12, 2025 · 1:19:58
It’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your…
Sep 8, 2025 · 1:03:48
In this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she would make the same choice…
Sep 1, 2025 · 1:09:56
In this episode, Ali is joined by Sabrina Bendory - author, creator, and voice behind some of the internet’s most-shared advice on healing, self-worth, and emotional detachment.…
Aug 25, 2025 · 1:06:09
Are you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the new Cerca dating app have been…
Aug 18, 2025 · 1:30:47
Ali is joined by Skyline this week on what is soon to be their shared couch! The move-in date is fast approaching, and they’ve both come with a list of things they’re thinking…
Aug 15, 2025 · 1:06:40
New relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each…
Aug 11, 2025 · 1:06:56
We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats with Nancy Walters, LICSW all…
Aug 4, 2025 · 1:08:58
Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leaving than they did entering.…
Jul 28, 2025 · 1:02:12
Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to…
Jul 21, 2025 · 1:11:20
Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is here to help! She and Ali chat…
Jul 14, 2025 · 1:08:33
Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout. First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and…
Jul 7, 2025 · 1:17:52
Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host…
Jun 30, 2025 · 56:02
We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions! The submissions include: red…
Jun 23, 2025 · 1:03:59
We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with…
Jun 16, 2025 · 1:10:43
Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on…
Jun 9, 2025 · 1:05:24
TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16. Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way of operating in the world?…
Jun 2, 2025 · 1:06:01
Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never…
May 26, 2025 · 1:09:28
Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone.…
May 19, 2025 · 1:02:52
Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve…
May 12, 2025 · 53:40
Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask…
May 5, 2025 · 1:14:37
We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture.…
Apr 28, 2025 · 50:28
Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she…
Apr 21, 2025 · 1:12:46
Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an…
Apr 14, 2025 · 1:11:22
Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where…
Apr 7, 2025 · 1:11:36
It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her…
Mar 31, 2025 · 1:05:06
Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s…
Mar 24, 2025 · 1:12:29
It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater…
Mar 17, 2025 · 1:00:39
We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since…
Mar 10, 2025 · 1:11:04
TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer…
Mar 3, 2025 · 1:07:18
We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate…
Feb 24, 2025 · 54:29
For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we…
Feb 17, 2025 · 1:04:26
We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigating friends’ feelings about it,…
Feb 10, 2025 · 1:15:36
TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage and into the dating journey that…
Feb 3, 2025 · 1:20:38
This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating…
Jan 27, 2025 · 1:12:39
Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups,…
Jan 20, 2025 · 57:54
Erica & Ali have a major podcast update at the top of the episode. It’s an emotional one, and we thank you all for being here for it. We then transition to a lighter topic,…
Jan 13, 2025 · 1:07:18
We’ve all been in conflict before, but have you ever thought about how your conflict style affects the outcome? And how that style might shift over time and in various…
Jan 6, 2025 · 1:12:54
If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on…
Dec 30, 2024 · 1:15:06
It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune…
Dec 23, 2024 · 1:11:06
We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels over their holiday traditions, a…
Dec 16, 2024 · 1:16:16
Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexually fluid season of Are You The One?…
Dec 9, 2024 · 54:35
Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security…
Dec 2, 2024 · 1:36:28
It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored guest that we had to bring her…
Nov 25, 2024 · 1:10:17
Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of…
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