Welcome to the Charisma Quotient hosted by dating, makeover and confidence expert, Kimmy Seltzer. Each week, learn from Kimmy and other experts about how to build confidence from the outside, in. She's consulted thousands of people to revamp their style, boost their confidence and most importantly, find love. Her lighthearted, down-to-earth and practical approach brings a fun and knowledgeable style to the podcast. She alternates the podcast with solo episodes highlighting various topics, interviewing experts, reading questions and answering them with surprising answers and live coaching sessions.
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Sep 29, 2026 · 37:23
What happens when the roles that defined you for decades begin to change - and you're told to "get back out there" before you're sure who you are now? Kimmy sits down with Wendy…
Sep 16, 2026 · 35:56
Would you enjoy going on a date with yourself—or would it feel more like an interrogation? Too many singles become so focused on checking boxes, spotting red flags, and…
Sep 7, 2026 · 42:48
Have you ever wondered what really happens in the ladies' room when women gather to reminisce, heal, or hype each other up? What does it take to reinvent yourself after a major…
Aug 31, 2026 · 28:04
What happens when you finally stop people-pleasing and start trusting your own intuition? How can the confidence you build through dance and cheerleading transform the way you…
Aug 21, 2026 · 28:08
What does sisterhood look like when it stands the test of 40 years? How does cheerleading, often dismissed as just pom-poms and pep rallies, actually shape a woman's confidence,…
Aug 13, 2026 · 45:57
What if surrender isn't about giving up, but about unlocking your greatest strength? Could embracing pleasure be the most courageous act you take towards that allows you to…
Jul 30, 2026 · 42:33
Are menopause symptoms making you question your confidence and attractiveness—especially when it comes to dating? What if the secret to reigniting your energy, sensuality, and…
Jul 24, 2026 · 28:21
Are you tired of the endless swiping and superficial interactions on dating apps? Do you long for the days where you could meet someone in person? In Episode 453 of The Charisma…
Jul 17, 2026 · 42:04
Have you ever felt like you're doing everything right—putting yourself out there, looking your best, smiling at the world—yet you seem to blend into the background, totally…
Jul 9, 2026 · 38:48
Have you ever found yourself saying, "I don't need anyone—I can do it myself"? Do you sometimes wonder if your fierce independence is actually holding you back from the love and…
Jul 3, 2026 · 47:23
Are you wondering if it's too late to break old patterns or date when you feel like you're starting over? Are you struggling to move past self-doubt, loneliness, or feeling like…
Jun 25, 2026 · 32:51
Do you ever feel like you're hiding a part of yourself, whether in dating, relationships, or even your everyday life? Have past experiences, heartbreak, or even your own inner…
Jun 18, 2026 · 56:57
Have you ever found yourself giving endlessly in relationships, hoping for change that never comes? Do you wonder why it's so hard to let go of someone who's not fully available…
Jun 12, 2026 · 38:12
What if everything you believed about beauty, confidence, and attraction was based on a myth? Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you needed to change something before…
Jun 4, 2026 · 38:28
Are you finding that dating, especially after a long relationship or marriage, feels more like a job interview than a playful adventure? Connection gets lost when you're stuck in…
May 28, 2026 · 33:40
Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, "Where did I go?" What happens when years of relationship, marriage, or caretaking lead to losing sight of your own desires,…
May 23, 2026 · 29:11
How do the habits we form—inside and out—shape the quality of our lives and relationships? Can simple daily changes make a difference not only in how we feel, but also in how…
May 15, 2026 · 1:04:08
How do the habits we form—inside and out—shape the quality of our lives and relationships? Can simple daily changes make a difference not only in how we feel, but also in how…
May 4, 2026 · 54:53
Have you ever wondered what it really feels like to date after decades in a long-term relationship? How do you build confidence, flirt, and open your heart when your dating…
Apr 23, 2026 · 40:56
Have you ever come back from a date thinking, "Where was the spark?" Why is it that so many conversations feel like boring interviews instead of genuine connections? How can you…
Apr 17, 2026 · 35:47
Do you find yourself hanging back in social settings, struggling to know what to say on dates, or exhausted by the thought of small talk? You might consider yourself an…
Apr 9, 2026 · 36:19
Do you struggle with body image, feel stuck, or wonder what role oxytocin, intimacy, and even your wardrobe play in reigniting your sense of self and attraction? Your hormones…
Apr 2, 2026 · 51:43
Do you find yourself holding back, guarding your energy, or struggling to trust men—even when you long for connection? What if your difficulty with chemistry and attraction isn't…
Mar 26, 2026 · 39:13
Are you caught in the trap of overthinking and overanalyzing your every move? Do you find yourself waiting until everything is "just right" or perfect before putting yourself out…
Mar 19, 2026 · 40:44
Have you ever found yourself wondering why, despite putting yourself out there, you're just not meeting new people—or forming the kinds of connections you crave? In Episode 436…
Mar 13, 2026 · 43:27
Are you a smart, successful and high achiever who has your life together but when it comes to dating and flirting you feel completely stuck? What if the very strengths that make…
Mar 5, 2026 · 37:43
What if your dating challenges have roots far deeper than your last breakup, maybe even back to childhood family dynamics and subconscious roles? In Episode 434 of The Charisma…
Feb 27, 2026 · 47:32
Can technology truly help us become better at love, or is it making things more transactional and detached? In Episode 433 of The Charisma Quotient, "AI and Dating After 40: Can…
Feb 20, 2026 · 1:00:45
Are you struggling to trust yourself as you consider dating again? In Episode 432 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating, Trauma & Healing After a Narcissistic Marriage: Coaching with…
Feb 13, 2026 · 50:10
What does it mean to feel truly alive, sexy, and desired after decades of following the rules or after a long relationship ends? In Episode 431 of The Charisma Quotient,…
Feb 5, 2026 · 52:44
Have you ever wondered what it really takes to rebuild your confidence after a major heartbreak? In Episode 430 of The Charisma Quotient, "Reclaiming Confidence, Flirting, and…
Jan 30, 2026 · 41:40
What if sexual confidence isn't about effort or technique, but something deeper happening in your body and mind? In Episode 429 of The Charisma Quotient, "Understanding Men's…
Jan 15, 2026 · 34:02
Is your dating confidence low? Do you ever ask yourself if it's really possible to reinvent your love life at your age? In Episode 428 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating…
Jan 8, 2026 · 34:25
Are you tired of feeling like you're starring in your own dating version of Groundhog Day? Do you wonder why you keep attracting the same partners, or why your relationships keep…
Dec 30, 2025 · 1:03:28
Do you want to find love in the new year? Maybe you have been repeating old patterns and feeling stuck not knowing what to change to attract a healthy relationship. It's good to…
Dec 22, 2025 · 44:27
Did you know dating in the way you know it is changing as we head toward 2026? What if you could decode the trends, ditch the overwhelm, and finally feel confident navigating…
Dec 12, 2025 · 36:29
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, even though you seem to have it all together in your career and personal achievements? What if…
Dec 5, 2025 · 31:34
Have you ever sat across from someone on a first date and wondered, "Why does this feel so awkward? Why isn't there any chemistry?" Are you stuck in your head, anxious about what…
Nov 26, 2025 · 34:14
Have you ever wondered why old anger or resentment keeps resurfacing, even when you think you've moved on? Are you curious how forgiveness—not just for others, but for…
Nov 21, 2025 · 57:42
Why are dating shows so wildly popular? Do you ever wonder if those wild moments from reality TV have anything to do with your real-life dating struggles? What lessons—good or…
Nov 13, 2025 · 44:19
Have you ever found yourself wondering if your spark has faded? Do you think it's possible to feel sexy, confident, and truly alive—no matter your age, your relationship status,…
Nov 7, 2025 · 47:07
Have you ever wondered what actually happens behind the scenes at a dating retreat inspired by reality TV? How can you bring more excitement and authenticity to your dating life,…
Nov 3, 2025 · 1:00:42
How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially…
Oct 24, 2025 · 1:01:28
What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic…
Oct 16, 2025 · 1:02:45
Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you're still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you've been told…
Oct 9, 2025 · 1:02:04
Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient,…
Oct 3, 2025 · 42:42
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or…
Sep 26, 2025 · 48:31
Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love:…
Sep 18, 2025 · 30:26
Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to "find the one" can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that…
Sep 12, 2025 · 40:51
Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food…
Sep 5, 2025 · 44:47
Have you ever wondered what it truly means to date with intention—and not just to find a partner, but to rediscover playfulness, joy, and your own self-worth? In Episode 409 of…
Aug 28, 2025 · 41:44
Do you ever wonder why first impressions spark connections—or cause instant shut-downs? Are you struggling to translate your real-life personality into your digital presence? In…
Aug 22, 2025 · 29:35
Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce made headlines this week thanks to the heartwarming reaction of Travis and his brother, Jason Kelce, as they celebrated Taylor's new album, The Life…
Aug 15, 2025 · 41:23
Have you ever looked back at a breakup and wondered: Did I really miss those red flags, or was I ignoring what I didn't want to see? Do your relationships seem to fall into…
Aug 8, 2025 · 51:33
Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You're not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating In Your…
Aug 1, 2025 · 26:51
Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You're not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game" Kimmy guides you through…
Jul 23, 2025 · 43:20
Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner,…
Jul 18, 2025 · 40:49
What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today's world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self? In Episode 403…
Jul 10, 2025 · 50:30
Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is. But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a…
Jul 2, 2025 · 49:40
Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak…
Jun 23, 2025 · 1:19:23
Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In…
Jun 13, 2025 · 41:41
Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you'd seem…
Jun 5, 2025 · 38:57
Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never…
May 29, 2025 · 49:06
Have you ever found yourself thinking, "Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?" Or maybe you're out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click…
May 23, 2025 · 29:24
Ever feel like no matter how much you've accomplished, lasting love is still just out of reach? In Episode 396 of The Charisma Quotient, "5 Hidden Shields That Block Love After…
May 15, 2025 · 36:25
Are you ready to hear a transformative love story that will light a spark of hope and motivation in your own dating journey—no matter where you're starting from? In Episode 395…
May 8, 2025 · 39:27
Did you know intimacy is a skill that is a learnable, empowering skill? In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, "Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire &…
May 1, 2025 · 40:50
Why do we keep finding ourselves in the same frustrating dating patterns, no matter how much we try to shake things up? In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: What Is…
Apr 17, 2025 · 39:04
The key to lasting love is more than just chemistry, it's really knowing how you (and your partner) handle conflict. It's communication, emotional intelligence and how you handle…
Apr 9, 2025 · 53:55
Are your past experiences getting in your way when it comes to dating? Specifically you may have a fear of abandonment that stems from childhood which is the reason you push…
Apr 3, 2025 · 41:22
Did you know that anxiety disorders affect 18% of the adult population in the United States? Anxiety is your body's natural response to stress and uncertainty. Let's face it -…
Mar 27, 2025 · 46:08
Do you consider yourself an introvert? Are you in your head a lot and analyze everything to death to the point that it's affecting your dating life? In Episode 391 of The…
Mar 20, 2025 · 40:04
Discover the transformative journey of overcoming dating doubts and embracing confidence in episode 390 of The Charisma Quotient, "The Confidence Love Makeover: Where Are They…
Mar 13, 2025 · 59:28
Are you questioning if your time to find lasting love has passed after hitting 40? Let go of the doubts! In Episode 389 of The Charisma Quotient, "Later Daters: Finding Love at…
Mar 6, 2025 · 25:41
Are you tired of feeling like dating is a chore rather than a fun and exciting adventure? Did you know that being fun and playful are the top attributes that people inherently…
Feb 27, 2025 · 31:28
Getting back into the dating game after losing a partner can feel daunting. But you're not alone. So many people go through this, and it is possible to get back out there. In…
Feb 19, 2025 · 48:34
Navigating modern dating can feel exhausting. It's easy to get lost in the fast pace of swiping and online dating. But dating doesn't have to feel like so much work. In Episode…
Feb 12, 2025 · 31:03
With Valentine's Day around the corner, now is the time to give yourself a healthy dose of self love! In Episode 385 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Dating From a Place of…
Feb 6, 2025 · 48:39
Feeling insecure about your body image can shape your dating lives profoundly. In Episode 384 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Body Image & Divorce Shapes Your Dating Life: A…
Jan 29, 2025 · 41:35
Do you feel confident in your body? Did you know your level of confidence in your body plays a huge part in your love life? In Episode 382 of The Charisma Quotient, "How to…
Jan 22, 2025 · 36:08
Are you still waiting for the right person to come along? The key to love could be expressing your true self! In Episode 381 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Vulnerability and…
Jan 14, 2025 · 36:45
Are you ready to discover the keys to emotional availability and revamp your love life? In Episode 380 of The Charisma Quotient, "Mental Health & Dating: Interview with Amy…
Jan 3, 2025 · 42:17
Are you ready to redefine your self-perception and unleash the sexy side of you? In Episode 379 of The Charisma Quotient, "Sexy After 50 - Coaching with Kimmy," Kimmy coaches…
Dec 27, 2024 · 38:51
Life has a way of throwing curveballs at you. It seems like when it rains it pours, which can feel even more true when you're single. But it doesn't always have to be that way.…
Dec 20, 2024 · 43:06
If you look good, you feel good. When you feel good in your body and confident, that bleeds into your dating life. Feeling healthy can actually impact the way you approach dating…
Dec 12, 2024 · 47:26
Do you lack dating experience? Maybe you are more of a relationship person or maybe you never really just "dated" and have a desire to be in a relationship but your fear of…
Dec 5, 2024 · 41:55
In a world of constantly ever-changing technology and social rules, it can be challenging to know when and how to approach women. And for women, it can be difficult to know where…
Nov 29, 2024 · 33:50
Remember a time when finding a date was as easy as asking the girl next door? When people would pick up a rotary phone to call each other up? In the modern world of dating, there…
Nov 19, 2024 · 46:33
Dating after a loss can feel daunting. You feel like you've already found the one and now you've lost that part of yourself. Plus the dating scene has completely changed. In…
Nov 8, 2024 · 42:15
Are you watching Joan's journey on The Golden Bachelorette and feeling inspired to get back out there? In Episode 372 of The Charisma Quotient, "Surprising Lessons Learned from…
Nov 1, 2024 · 43:36
Dating later in life? Dating after 40 feels different than it did in your 20s. In Episode 371 of The Charisma Quotient, "Top 5 Mistakes When Dating Over 40", Kimmy lays out all…
Oct 25, 2024 · 43:36
Is your overthinking sabotaging your dating life? In Episode 370 of The Charisma Quotient, "From Overthinking to Engaging: Coaching With Kimmy", Kimmy does a live coaching…
Oct 18, 2024 · 53:29
Ever wondered why falling in love for a man feels different than falling in love for a woman? In Episode 369 of The Charisma Quotient, " ICYMI: How Men and Women Date…
Oct 11, 2024 · 28:29
Are you a dating overthinker? Maybe you're an amazing student - you've read every book, listened to every podcast, and heard all of the dating advice. But when you go on a date,…
Oct 4, 2024 · 45:59
Are you struggling to break free from past relationship patterns and yearning for personal growth? In Episode 367 of The Charisma Quotient, ": Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy does a…
Sep 27, 2024 · 29:27
Ever wondered how the health of your smile could be the key to unlocking your confidence and transforming your love life? In Episode 366 of The Charisma Quotient, "The Power of a…
Sep 20, 2024 · 32:08
What do you think of when you hear the word flirting? Does the very word fill you with fear? Flirting doesn't have to be so scary. It can actually be playful and fun. In Episode…
Sep 12, 2024 · 1:02:30
Ever wish you could sprinkle a little bit of magic and manifest the man or woman of your dreams? In Episode 364 of The Charisma Quotient, "Designing Your Dream Partner: Interview…
Sep 6, 2024 · 33:31
Are you feeling stuck after a long-term relationship? Does going back in the dating game make you feel guarded and nervous? In Episode 363 of The Charisma Quotient, "Finding Love…
Aug 29, 2024 · 29:06
Are you ready to turn up the heat and reclaim your sexy after 40? Dating in your 40s, 50s, and 60s is different! But that doesn't mean that it can't be fun. In Episode 362 of The…
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