Betrayal Trauma In Relationships: What No One Explains

A lot of women are looking for answers about how to heal betrayal trauma in relationships on Reddit or other forums. Here’s what those forums get wrong:

1. Betrayal Trauma isn’t “JUST” About the Cheating – It’s About ALL the Abuse

Betrayal trauma victims on reddit often share their stories about how their husband cheating on them and they can’t get the thoughts out of their heads. BUT they’re posts make it clear that they’re still unaware of all the other abuse they experienced.

For true healing, betrayal trauma victims progress more quickly when they’re aware of the truth. Understanding the emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and spiritual abuse will help things make more sense.

When it comes to betrayal trauma, knowing the truth is the first step to true healing.

2. There are Things That Make Betrayal Trauma Worse

Therapists may accidentally blame you by trying to help you figure out what you did to “get yourself into this mess.” But you didn’t do anything to deserve it, and it didn’t happen because you needed to learn something.

Women betrayed by an intimate partner don’t need therapy because nothing is wrong with them.

3. Many So-Called “Relationship Recovery” Resources Don’t Help Women Heal

Reddit or other forums contain many links to resources for couples to recovery from infidelity. However, they fail to mention two facts:

1) Infidelity is an abuse issue, not a relationship issue.

2) Couple therapy is never indicated when abuse is present. For this reason, any couple therapist who doesn’t understand that infidelity is abuse won’t be is not only unhelpful, but also unethical

These unethical therapists often pose as victims and link back to their practices to promote their business. Women in our community have often been to multiple therapists spending thousands of dollars on therapy, and the therapist doesn’t help them identify the abuse.

If you need actual support from women who understand, attend a live online support group for betrayal trauma TODAY.

The Right Support To Help You Identify if Betrayal Trauma In A Relationship

If you discover your husband betrayed you, knowing what to is difficult. Sometimes clergy, therapists, even the legal system dismiss women’s trauma after betrayal.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery empowers women when they become educated about what to do. One of the key things to do if you’ve been betrayed is determining if there has also been emotional abuse. To discover if his betrayal includes emotional abuse, take our free emotional abuse quiz.

Transcript: Betrayal Trauma In Relationships

Anne: We have a very special episode today. Women who’ve experienced betrayal trauma in relationships share what helped them heal—I asked them to record their thoughts and send them to me, and here are those recordings.

She Learned How to Create Boundaries Due To The Betrayal Trauma In Her Relationship

Betrayal Trauma Victim #1: We tried many counselors, including CSATS, and have been doing that quite some time. Being on BTR for just a few weeks has made all the difference, and I can see the behaviors now much more clearly, the dysfunction. Being on every day and getting the validation from the coaches and other women has been tremendously helpful to me. Life changing.

She Received Life-Changing Support

Betrayal Trauma Victim #2: I’m grateful for Betrayal Trauma Recovery. I gained clear thinking about what I saw and what was happening. I listened to the podcast, then coaches talked with me one-on-one. They helped me name what I faced—grooming, gaslighting, and more—and gave me simple strategies to handle it. Before BTR, I didn’t even have words for it. It’s <a hre