Generational Trauma, Ego & Identity: How Conditioning Shapes Us | Laziena Hodge
Stories and Stanza · Nov 8, 2026 · 1:24:43
Stories and Stanza · Nov 8, 2026 · 1:24:43
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Why is change so hard, even when we know better? In this Fail With Me conversation, relationship coach and author Laziena Hodge returns to Stories and Stanza to unpack how conditioning shapes our identity, our ego, and the way we love, parent and relate to one another.
Drawing on their shared Indian heritage, Abhra and Laziena explore generational trauma and inherited fears, shame-based cultures, shifting gender roles, and why so many men stay stuck behind their ego. They talk about anger as a messenger, emotional labour and the ways we numb it, the difference between knowing something and actually living it, and how journaling and somatic work helped each of them put down a weight they'd carried for years.
This is an honest, unfiltered conversation about ego, healing and growth. It isn't about blame. It's about getting curious, recognising the incomplete stories we inherited, and choosing to parent and partner from presence instead of old patterns.
In this episode:
- How generational conditioning passes fears and anxieties from parent to child
- Why self-awareness alone isn't enough, and what real integration looks like
- Ego, defensiveness and the "do I want to be right or in relationship?" question
- Emotional presence vs. fixing: what support really means
- Emotional labour, burnout and building a healthy support system
- Parenting as a two-way street
- Curiosity, forgiveness and closing what stayed open
About Laziena Hodge:
Laziena Hodge is a relational intelligence speaker, relationship repair coach and the creator of the Relationship Repair Language™. Born in Guyana with Indian heritage and now based in Tampa Bay, Florida, she built her framework out of lived experience: rebuilding her relationship with her own children through curiosity, emotional honesty and a willingness to get it wrong. Her work brings together emotional intelligence, attachment, nervous system awareness and inner child work to help individuals, parents and leaders understand the needs underneath their emotional reactions and repair without shame or blame. She is the author of The Relationship Repair Language, a blueprint for healing love, and the host of the Breaking the Cycles podcast.
Stories and Stanza is a podcast where our diverse stories meet, struggles melt and fuse into one great poetry of life.
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