Essentials in Leadership | Episode 12 | Healthy Self Love

What if denying ourselves is mistaken for self-hatred instead of embracing our identity in Christ? In Episode 12 of "Essentials in Leadership," Duane Sheriff teaches that understanding healthy self-love is essential to loving others. He draws on the Golden Rule, the principle of sowing and reaping, and Jesus' command to love our neighbors as ourselves. Scripture makes it clear that God never intended for us to live with self-hatred, insecurity, or unhealthy shame.

This message skillfully distinguishes between denying the old sinful nature and embracing the new creation we have become in Christ. The "old self" united to Adam was crucified with Christ, but the "new self" is righteous, holy, and filled with the fruit of the Spirit. Healthy self-love is not pride, narcissism, or self-exaltation—it is valuing the new person God created us to be in Jesus.

Duane shares personal stories from leadership, ministry, health, rest, and relationships to show how healthy self-love helps us serve others effectively, stay strong over time, and reflect Christ's love and character in everyday life.