Proactive vs. Reactive — Crying in Chili's

Episode 17: Proactive vs. Reactive

Sarah is back, and this time we’re getting therapized.

Courtney and Sarah are getting cozy (with eight-month-old Shih Tzu Roscoe serving as a highly questionable guest producer) for an honest conversation about therapy, mental health, and what it actually looks like to do the work.

They talk about finding the right therapist — and why it’s completely okay to break up with one who isn’t working for you — plus OCD, grief, sobriety, relationships, CBT, TMS, EMDR, and the difference between learning coping skills and actually using them.

At the center of it all: becoming more proactive and less reactive. Courtney and Sarah reflect on how therapy has changed the way they handle conflict, difficult emotions, relationships, trauma, and the deeply unnecessary things life continues to throw their way.

Because healing isn't about reaching some magical point where you're officially “fixed.” It's learning how to pause, process, take accountability, and choose how you want to move forward.

Also discussed: sweaty little gremlins, four-leaf clovers, sharking and crying, emotionally unavailable men who should probably go to therapy, and the tiny, whimsical things that help get us through the hard stuff.

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