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What does healing actually look like — not in theory, but right now, in the middle of your real life?
In part one, Jamie and Blake laid the foundation: the hidden rules they carried into healing, why they thought it meant fixing themselves, and how those expectations got in the way. Now they're back to answer the harder question — what does cultivating the garden actually look like for them today? Nearly a decade into their respective journeys through therapy, 12-step recovery, and story work, they're both currently going through it, and they're not pretending otherwise.
If you're somewhere in the middle of your own healing and wondering why it doesn't look like what you thought it would, this one's for you.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Why healing is an ongoing journey, not a destination — and the difference between healing and healed
What self-abandonment actually means and how it quietly shows up in relationships
Why what looks like trusting yourself and going to addiction is actually your intuition asking for care with a maladaptive solution
How abuse systematically disorients your intuition — and what coming home to it looks like
Why forgiveness is a process you begin, not a moment you complete
Why holding onto resentment feels like power but functions like a prison
What tending the garden actually looks like in the day-to-day
CHAPTERS
(00:00) Welcome back: part two of what did you expect healing to look like? (01:00) The vacation analogy — when expectations ruin what's actually beautiful (03:00) Recapping part one: what we thought healing was supposed to be (05:00) What healing looks like for Jamie right now — slowing down and story work (07:00) The gym analogy: why you can't bank mental health reps and coast (09:00) Blake: healing looks like coming home to and trusting my own intuition (10:00) How hyper-responsibility and self-abandonment are connected (11:00) Defining self-abandonment — leaving yourself there to suffer (14:00) The difference between your intuition and your adaptive child parts (16:00) Your desire for care is not the problem. Your solution might be. (18:00) The coming cultural revolt against therapy — and what it reveals about our desire for easy fixes (21:00) Maybe healing is learning how to suffer well (23:00) Forgiveness as a garden tool — Jamie on beginning the process with his abuser (25:00) Drinking poison and hoping he would die — and why Jamie finally put it down
LINKS & RESOURCES
Three Percent Website: https://threepercentco.com/
Join The Basement (private community + reflection guides): https://threepercentco.com/membership
Part 1 — What Did You Expect Healing to Look Like?: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5aOAfVihpYRNLfbf9GlpdX?si=3094581eb19e4ed2
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