67. What to Say to a Friend Going Through Infertility (And What to Avoid) — Her Fertility

In this Dear Jess episode, I answer one of the most common questions: what do you say to a friend going through infertility? I break down the one communication mistake most well-meaning friends and family make, why sharing your own similar story can unintentionally shift the focus away from the person who needs support, and the simple phrase that gives your friend agency in the conversation.

In this episode:

The most common mistake people make when trying to comfort someone with infertility
Why "relating" can sometimes backfire — even with good intentions
The exact phrases to use (and avoid) when you don't know what to say
How to offer your own similar experience without taking over the conversation

If you have infertility or if you know someone who is trying to conceive, this episode is for you.

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Jess Tims is a researcher, educator, and creator of Her Fertility Support. She supports you so that you can step into your next chapter of motherhood fully in your power. Start with the free quiz.

Disclaimer: The Her Fertility podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your healthcare professional regarding any symptoms or medical problems you are experiencing.

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