66. Maybe this isn't meant for me. Why do I feel so defeated during infertility? I Dear Jess — Her Fertility

In this Dear Jess episode, I answer your question about feeling defeated during infertility. I break down how the subconscious mind works to protect us from repeated pain, why thoughts like "this isn't meant for me" aren't actually true reflections of what's possible, and I introduces the concept of the "fertility triangle" the idea that conception involves three parties (you, your partner, and the soul you're calling in) and why releasing some control isn't the same as giving up.

In this episode:

Why the subconscious mind records painful experiences as "fact" and tries to protect you from repeat pain
How to separate a protective thought from your true desire
The "fertility triangle" framework and why you're not the only writer of this story
Why feeling defeated doesn't mean you're doing something wrong

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Jess Tims is a researcher, educator, and creator of Her Fertility Support. She supports you so that you can step into your next chapter of motherhood fully in your power. Start with the free quiz.

Disclaimer: The Her Fertility podcast is for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your healthcare professional regarding any symptoms or medical problems you are experiencing.

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