You Don't Lack Clarity, You're Avoiding Makind a Decision |People-Pleasing Walking on Eggshells

I’m going to say something in this episode that might feel uncomfortable—but if you’re willing to hear it, it could change the direction of your life.

You’re not confused.

You’re avoiding a decision.

I see this pattern in so many women, especially those of us who have spent years trying to be good, agreeable, and faithful. We tell ourselves we’re waiting for clarity, for peace, or for God to make the next step obvious…

But underneath that, we’re often afraid of what choosing will cost us.

Because the truth is—when you make a decision, you have to let something else go.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• Why you struggle to prioritize (and what that’s really about)
• The fear of loss that keeps you stuck in indecision
• How you may have learned to give away your decision-making power growing up
• The subtle but important misunderstanding of what it means to submit in marriage
• And how to begin rebuilding trust with yourself through small, intentional decisions

This is not about becoming forceful or independent in a way that pushes others out.

It’s about becoming a woman who can stand before God, take responsibility for her life, and move forward with clarity and peace.

 

What You’ll Be Challenged to Consider

• What decision have I been avoiding that I keep calling “confusion”?
• What do I believe I will lose if I actually choose?
• Where did I learn to hesitate instead of decide?
• Have I mistaken passivity for faithfulness in my marriage?

 

A Simple Practice This Week

Choose one area of your life where you’ve been circling but not landing.

Then:

1. Name the decision clearly
2. Write down what you’re afraid to lose
3. Take one small step forward—without overthinking it

You don’t rebuild trust with yourself by waiting longer.

You rebuild it by moving.

 

Resources & Next Steps

• Book a call with me: https://meetings.hubspot.com/callemeersch
• Email: hello@coachedbycarrie.com
• Website: www.carrieallemeersch.com
• Call or text: (1) 604-302-3402
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