Why Do I Want My Husband's Approval- Self Worth, Christian Wife, Eggshells, People Pleasing — The Worthy Wife | Christian Marriage, Walking on Eggshells, Self-Confidence After 50

Why do you want what you want?

You may want to lose weight, declutter your home, improve your finances or gain your husband’s approval. These can all be reasonable desires—but what do you believe you will finally feel when you achieve them?

Often, we are not pursuing only the visible outcome. We are pursuing the feeling and personal verdict we believe are waiting on the other side:

“I am disciplined.”

“I am responsible.”

“I am lovable.”

“I am valuable.”

“I am a good wife.”

In this episode of The Worthy Wife, Carrie helps you identify the hidden emotional promise beneath the goals and relationships you may be pursuing most intensely.

You’ll learn:

Why desired outcomes become connected to our identity
The feeling you may expect weight loss, money or an organized home to provide
What your husband’s approval may seem to prove about you
The difference between a healthy desire and emotional dependence
Why an outcome can change your circumstances but cannot establish your worth
How to pursue change without postponing your value until you succeed

Journal questions:

What am I pursuing most intensely?
What do I believe I will feel when I achieve it?
What will that feeling seem to prove about me?
How would I pursue this desire if I already believed I was completely loved?

If you want help uncovering the beliefs driving your patterns, book a consultation with Carrie: https://meetings.hubspot.com/allemeersch

Website: https://coachedbycarrie.com

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Keywords: emotional motivation, why we do what we do, husband’s approval, Christian self-worth, identity in Christ, people-pleasing, perfectionism, weight loss mindset, decluttering motivation, Christian women over 50