45. The Radical MOM Pause Toolkit Ep. 3: Meeting Your Needs

In this episode, we delve into the practical aspects of meeting your needs in the moment after taking that crucial, radical pause as a mom. This isn't about instant perfection—it's about understanding that learning to care for ourselves is a lifelong practice, just like learning to care for our children.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why meeting your needs is a practice, not perfection
• Understanding your nervous system states (safety, stress, and shutdown)
• The three camps: grounded safety state, sympathetic (stress) state, and dorsal (shutdown) state
• How to identify which state you're in and what your body is telling you
• Practical tools for meeting yourself where you're at
• The importance of moving through states rather than jumping directly to calm

Tools & Resources Mentioned:

• The Radical MOM Pause Toolkit: https://theschoolofmom.com/pause
• School of Mom Quiz: Discovering Your Dominant Inner Voice: http://www.theschoolofmom.com/quiz 
• Marc Brackett's Mood Meter: https://marcbrackett.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Mood_Meter_Marc_Brackett_Permission-to-Feel.pdf 
• Yoga tune-up balls
• The "oil and garlic" concept for go-to regulation practices

Key Takeaway: You need to meet your inner self where it's at first, matching the energy of your current state before gently guiding yourself toward regulation. This might mean movement and dancing for anxious energy, or gentle movement to lift yourself out of shutdown.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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