78. The Time Myth: Why Mothers Don’t “Find” Time — They Learn to Claim It

In this episode, I'm diving into one of the biggest barriers I hear from women about joining The School of Mom: "I don't have time." Here's the truth that might sting a little: the very thing that will change your relationship with time IS this program. And the belief that you don't have time is exactly what's preventing you from the transformation you're seeking. I'm breaking down the neuroscience of "story follows state," sharing my own time scarcity moments, and explaining why our beliefs about time are actually rooted in our nervous system programming—not reality.

Key Points

1. Understanding "story follows state" - how your nervous system state creates your beliefs about time
2. Common time traps we fall into: "there's never enough time," "time is a thief," "you'll miss this one day"
3. How stress states drive our scarcity beliefs around time versus ventral vagal (grounded) state beliefs
4. Why saying "I don't have time" is really "I'm not making time" - and that's okay to acknowledge
5. The distinction between seasons where something truly doesn't fit versus when it's a priority issue
6. How writing a book taught me I can never say "I don't have time" again
7. Why multitasking won't work for nervous system healing - you actually need to pay attention
8. What will you wish you had made time for on your deathbed?
9. Integration practices designed specifically for moms (not morning routines that don't work when you're sleep-deprived)
10. When it's NOT a good time to join: deep postpartum, acute life transitions, major moves or illness
11. Why I'm no longer spending time convincing women they have time - meeting you where you are

Quotes

"Story follows state. The state that we are in our nervous system, in our body dictates the lens through which we see the world."

"When I slow down, time slows down."

"I can never ever say again that I don't have time because I writing a book, hours and hours and hours of writing."

"I do have time. I make time for what matters to me."

"This is not another thing that you have to add on. It's changing how you move through what you're already doing."

"People on their deathbed say they wish they were more present, they wish they had more time to play, they wish they were in that nervous system state that is that connected grounded state."

"I am entering a new era where I no longer have time to try to convince you that you can make the time."

Resources Mentioned

1. Mothering Ourselves Mindfully signature program - starting February 23rd: http://www.theschoolofmom.com/mom
2. "It Is Round Time" - bonus training included with MOM program enrollment about rewiring your relationship with time
3. Book a call with Sarah to discuss if the program is right for you: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/149935
4. Send Sarah your voice note right here!

What's Coming Next

Registration is open NOW for Mothering Ourselves Mindfully! This 8-week program includes four small group integration calls (Mondays at 12pm Eastern or Thursdays at 1pm Eastern) and four live teaching calls. Plus everyone who joins receives the complete "It Is Round Time" series as a bonus.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Mothering Ourselves Mindfully." We look forward to sharing more insights and inspiration in the upcoming episodes!

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