Why You Keep Having the Same Fight Even When You Know Better
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling · Apr 14, 2026 · 31:25
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling · Apr 14, 2026 · 31:25
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If your relationships keep looping the same fight…
and you can see it happening in real time—
this episode is for you.
If you’ve ever been mid-argument thinking,
I know exactly what this is…
and still couldn’t stop it.
You see the pattern.
You can name it.
You can feel it building.
And still…
you end up right back in it.
In this episode, we get into:
• the moment awareness shows up—and nothing shifts
• what happens right before you repeat it again
• why naming it doesn’t interrupt it
• what you start doing instead of actually changing it
• the question that shows up when insight stops working
At a certain point…
you’re not just in the pattern.
You’re watching yourself do it—
and that doesn’t stop you either.
REFERENCES/RESOURCES
www.alternativescounseling.com
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy by Jessica Fern
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.
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