Why Do I Keep Choosing People Who Don’t Choose Me?
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling · Apr 7, 2026 · 24:23
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling
We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling · Apr 7, 2026 · 24:23
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If your relationships start with chemistry…and then leave you feeling anxious, preoccupied, or unsure—this episode is for you.
If you’re the one who gets pulled in fast…and then starts watching the connection instead of enjoying it.
It feels exciting at first. Strong. Magnetic.
And then something shifts.
A delay. A change in tone. Warmth… then distance.
And instead of stepping back, you lean in harder.
In this episode, we get into:
• the moment excitement starts turning into vigilance
• why you keep holding on when nothing is actually getting clearer
• what it means when you’re reading the tone of every text
• the story you start telling yourself to stay in it
• the question that shows up when attraction stops feeling good
At a certain point…you’re not just feeling chemistry anymore.
You’re trying to figure out why wanting them feels this destabilizing.
REFERENCES/RESOURCES
www.alternativescounseling.com
CREDITS
“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.
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