108. 'Supportive of What?' The Year a Friend Asked Me One Question and Broke the Season 3

The birthday of ADHD Mums came and went and I didn't celebrate. I'd spent a whole season demanding a seat at the table. By the end of it I was in bed, couldn't walk, getting diagnosed with perimenopause mid-record, and a friend asked me one question that broke the whole thing open. Supportive of what?

What We Cover

• The launch episode promise — "no more explaining, just strategy" — and why I delivered it and still feel like I lied
• Two lipedema operations, four months unable to walk, demanding a seat at the table from a hospital bed
• The cooked roast chicken after the C-section, and what I now call that "badge of honour"
• Crying mid-record with Dr Sunita Chelva and getting diagnosed with perimenopause to my face
• Reading the DSM at 15, walking into my parents' room, and being told to sweep it under the rug
• Why I gave up on the NDIS politicians — Mark Butler, the budget line, the room with no lived experience
• The premiers and health ministers messaging me now to re-announce nothing
• The friend who said 'Supportive of what?' and broke the whole season open
• What it costs to be the high-functioning ADHD woman who could do it all
• Why the strategy episodes were never the ones that landed — the identity episodes were
• The scheduled five-minute breakdown in the car, the wipe, the smile
• A million downloads, and what you've been doing for me without knowing it
• I'm not your guide. I'm the woman next to you in the car park.

Related Episodes

• S3 EP50: HORMONES — When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-50-hormones-when-hormones-hijack-the-mind-adhd-perimenopause-emotional-burnout/
• S3 EP52: HORMONES — When HRT Isn't Enough: Mum Rage & Perimenopause Explained — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-52-hormones-when-hrt-isnt-enough-mum-rage-perimenopause-explained/
• S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/
• S3: Overstimulated Before 7am (Rachel Few) — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/rachel-few/
• S3 EP4: The Advanced ADHD + Neurodivergence Myths.. Busted — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-4-the-advanced-adhd-neurodivergence-myths-busted/

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