EP 687: How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Guy, with Serena Kerrigan

She almost said no to the man who became her person, because he didn't check every box.

This week I'm sitting down with Serena Kerrigan, author of Let's Fucking Date, to talk about the standards that almost kept her from Felix, the guy who's now her partner of four years. Serena opens up about the "deal breakers" she used to swear by, why she almost walked away from someone six years younger, and the moment she realized her real non-negotiable was never age or income, it was how he treated her.

We go deep into healing, self-love, and the repetition compulsion that had her attracting the same guy over and over until she finally asked why. Serena shares the therapy work that got her there, what secure love actually felt like once she found it (hint: it's boring in the best way), and her "Mirror Mirror" practice for rebuilding self-worth one conversation at a time.

If you've ever wondered whether your standards are protecting you or isolating you, this episode is your permission slip to look closer.

Inside the Episode:

• The dating "standard" Serena had to let go of to find her person
• Why the fear of being "too intimidating" is keeping the wrong men in your dating pool
• The two-day text rule that tells you everything about where you stand

Connect with Serena:

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@serenakerrigan
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan/
• Get the book, Let's Fucking Date

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