Secure attachment and dads: How fathers' inner worlds shape their parenting with Dr. Jett Stone

Dr. Jett Stone, clinical psychologist and author of Quiet Your Mind: A Men's Guide, joins me to talk about paternal mental health and the invisible emotional load modern fathers are carrying, many without language, models, or permission to talk about it.

 

Together we explore:

 

• Why millennial dads often feel like they're parenting without a blueprint.
• How intergenerational patterns and "boyhood rules" shape the way men show up as fathers.
• Why so many dads feel like the "secondary parent" and how mothers can invite fathers in without diminishing their own needs or experiencing resentment.
• The tension between wanting authority and wanting connection with your child (and how to hold both).
• Why secure attachment with dads doesn't have to look exactly like secure attachment with moms.
• How doing your own reflective work as a parent can transform the entire family system.

 

This conversation will help you understand the emotional lives of fathers with more compassion and clarity. Because when dads feel supported, included, and emotionally resourced, the whole family benefits.

 

Whether you're a parent, a partner, or a therapist working with families, this episode will expand the way you think about modern fatherhood.

 

 

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

🔗 Dr. Jett Stone  

📚 Quiet Your Mind: A Men's Guide: Practical Techniques to Stop Overthinking and Take Charge of Your Life

💻 Psychology Today  

🎧 No Man's an Island podcast

 

 

FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:

📱 @drjettstone  

📱 @drsarahbren

 

 

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

👉 Looking for extra support in your parenting journey? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and parent coaching for moms, dads, and families who want to feel more grounded and confident as they navigate parenthood and support their child's development. Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services or schedule a free 30-minute consultation to find the right support for your family.

 

 

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about fostering deep and meaningful relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what it means to be a father with Kendall Smith

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about becoming a team with your partner-in-parenting with Lauren A. Tetenbaum

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about fostering a secure attachment relationship