256 Living with Dementia: We Are Still Here so Don't Walk Away with Marilyn Raichle — Growing Older Living Younger: About longevity, wellness, healthspan,

Dementia is one of the greatest fears associated with aging—but what if it didn't have to mean l oss, disappearance, or despair? In this deeply moving episode, author and arts innovator Marilyn Raichle shares how walking toward her mother, rather than away, transformed dementia into a journey of presence, creativity, connection, and joy. This conversation offers a profoundly human reframe of memory loss and aging. For many people, dementia is equated with the loss of self, meaning, and value. Families are often advised—explicitly or implicitly—to disengage emotionally, preparing for inevitable decline and disappearance. But how we approach dementia shapes not only quality of life for those living with it, but also the emotional, psychological, and biological stress experienced by care partners. Chronic fear, grief, and disengagement accelerate aging for everyone involved, while presence, joy, and connection support resilience and healthspan.

Author of Don't Walk Away, A Care Partner's Journey, Marilyn Raichle brings a rare perspective shaped by a lifetime in the performing arts and nine years as a care partner to her mother, Jean. Through art, shared joy, and daily presence, Marilyn discovered that her mother was not "gone," but distilled to her essential humanity—creative, competitive, loving, and alive. Listeners will learn how creativity opens pathways to connection, why joy is possible even in advanced dementia, and how reframing the experience from caregiving to partnership transforms both lives.

Episode Timelines:

00:00 — Dementia and our deepest fears about aging

03:45 — Marilyn's background in the performing arts

07:30 — Becoming a reluctant care partner

10:45 — Discovering creativity through painting

14:30 — The Art of Alzheimer's is born

18:40 — Enduring personhood explained

22:55 — Sharing joy as a daily practice

27:30 — A single mindset shift for care partners

31:00 — Final reflections on love, presence, and meaning

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