Am I Too Much? — A 10-Minute Meditation for Feeling Like a Burden and the Fear of Being Too Much
It arrives quietly, usually afterwards, usually once you've been talking for a while. They were kind. They were still listening. And somewhere underneath it, you'd already started apologising in your head for taking up the evening. If you've ever wondered am I too much, or felt afraid of being a burden to the people who love you, this guided meditation sits with exactly that feeling, and gently questions the running total anxiety keeps on your behalf.
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Hosted by clinical hypnotherapist Martin Hewlett, this episode uses a three-part breath (filling the belly, then the ribs, then the top of the chest) to help you take up the whole of your own lungs, before moving into affirmation work that separates needing people from being a burden to them.
⏱️ Time Chapters
* 00:00 – "Am I Too Much?"
* 00:40 – Welcome & Anchored
* 01:26 – The Running Total
* 02:46 – Breathing: The Three-Part Breath
* 05:00 – A Gift of Time
* 05:27 – Someone Who Is Glad You Exist
* 06:31 – Affirmations for Belonging
* 08:16 – Three Daily Caring Tips
* 09:08 – Coming Back Gently
* 09:46 – A Note From Martin
🌿 Today's Gentle Affirmations
Settle in and repeat these gently to yourself:
I am safe. I am here.
I am not too much for the people who love me.
I am allowed to take up space.
Needing people is not the same as being a burden.
I give freely, and I am allowed to receive.
There is nothing to replay.
I am wanted, not tolerated.
I am enough as I am, on a bad day as well as a good one.
💡 3 Daily Caring Tips
1. When somebody asks how you are today, notice the little urge to say "fine, sorry" — and just let yourself say how you are, without the sorry on the end.
2. Bring to mind one thing you gave somebody this week that you've already completely forgotten about. It counted.
3. If somebody offers you something small today — a lift, a cup of tea, ten minutes of their time — let them. Being received is a kindness you're doing for them too.
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And in everything, my friend, be kind.
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