Unlearning Doesn't End It Just Gets Quieter: What Parents of LGBTQ Kids Need to Know — More Human. More Kind. | Parenting LGBTQ Kids, Unlearning Fear, Becoming More Human

Love is proven by what you're willing to unlearn. This is a check-in on that, for you and for me.

Year-one unlearning is loud: fear, shame, and often a full religious deconstruction, and impossible to miss. What comes after is quieter and easy to overlook entirely: the automatic reach for a label, a tidy category, before you actually know anything true about someone. This episode is an honest look at where allyship goes once the big, obvious work is behind you.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

Recognize the difference between year-one unlearning and the quieter unlearning that follows
Notice the habit of labeling, and why it creates comfort for you and walls for someone else
Run a quarterly self-audit to keep your unlearning honest and ongoing
Normalize still catching yourself, years into this work, as the actual practice rather than failure

Press play for the full Quarterly Unlearning Check-In, five questions to return to every three months.

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous connection.

For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heartwarming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.

Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re on this journey with me.

More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.