Love vs. Feeling Loved | Guidance for Parenting LGBTQ Teens

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You love your LGBTQ+ child. But does your child actually feel that love? And if there's a gap between the two, what does it cost them?

In this episode, Heather explores the difference between loving your child and your child feeling loved. Research tells us that felt family acceptance is one of the strongest protective factors for LGBTQ+ youth mental health. But acceptance isn't just a position you hold. It's something your child has to be able to receive. Heather also addresses something that doesn't get talked about enough in parenting spaces: love bombing in the queer community, why LGBTQ+ young people can be especially vulnerable, and what parents can actually do to protect their kids without pushing them away.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

• Recognize the difference between loving your child and demonstrating love in a way they can actually feel
• Understand what researchers call "quiet rejection" and why silence or ambiguity can feel unsafe to your LGBTQ+ child
• Identify the signs of love bombing in online and community spaces and use four practical strategies to make home the most compelling source of belonging in your child's life

Press play to discover how closing the gap between loving and feeling loved can transform your relationship with your LGBTQ+ child and strengthen their foundation for life.

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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, and queer individuals, through conversations about mental health, grief, gender identity, sexual orientation, human rights, social justice, parenting, parent support, and meaningful LGBTQ allyship and allyship in action.

parenting LGBTQ kids, family acceptance, love bombing, queer youth mental health, LGBTQ teen support, unconditional love, family belonging, Trevor Project, affirming parents, LGBTQ family