#004 - Stefanos Sifandos - You're in Conflict With Your Past, Not Your Partner

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!Stefanos Sifandos is a behavioral scientist, author and relationship expert who has worked with special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters. But more than any credential — he is someone who has lived inside the wound he now helps others heal.In this conversation Billy sits down with Stefanos not just as an interviewer, but as a case study of everything Stefanos teaches. This is one of the rawest, most personal conversations you will see online.In this episode:

- What mother-son enmeshment actually is and why it is showing up in your adult relationships- Why men who desperately want intimacy keep pushing it away — and what is really happening in the nervous system- Why the work you do outside the argument is the only thing that changes the argument- Billy's own reckoning with shutdown, repressed anger and what happens when sport is no longer the outlet- Why Andrew Tate serves a purpose — and what that says about the men following him- The real reason men cannot find friends who are both ambitious and emotionally deep- What it means to embrace the part of you that wants to burn everything down- Whether some lessons in life can only be learned the hard way- If aliens offered you everything in the cosmos — would you leave this life behindChapters:03:00 Mother son enmeshment and relationships10:00 Why men shut down in intimacy15:00 Regulating your nervous system in conflict28:00 Repressed anger and where it goes37:00 Addiction and the pull toward escape44:00 Monogamy desire and the fear of commitment56:00 Guilt shame and self honesty1:00:00 Finding men who are deep and driven1:06:00 His story — the moment everything changed1:21:00 Andrew Tate and modern masculinity1:30:00 Are some lessons only learned through pain1:38:00 How much do you love this life1:50:00 What stopped him from ending itGet Stefanos' book "Tuned In and Turned On":https://www.amazon.com/Tuned-Turned-Connection-Healing-Lasting-ebook/dp/B0F4QBVX5GFollow Stefanos:https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/https://www.youtube.com/@stefanosssifandosFollow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/