#100 The Story of a Mama and Burlesque Artist; An Interview with Phoxy Qurvy — Mums F**king Matter

I met today's guest, 'Phoxy', at a burlesque show last year where she was hosting and entertaining for 'The Cheek Of It!'.

Phoxy Qurvy is a quirky, curvy burlesque performer and hostess (with the most breasts)! With 30 years plus performance experience, this award-winning, plus-sized, bisexual yummy mummy is eclectic, chameleonic and full of wit, wisdom and passion. Phoxy is producer of the Qurve Ball and founder and principal of Phoxy Qurvy's School of Burly (est.2018).

Phoxy is also Mum to 3 children and lives in Cambridgeshire, UK.

(We have a really good chat about birth trauma the reality of motherhood for some. I hope you feel seen, heard and understood in what is shared in this conversation.)

TRIGGER WARNINGS:

from 13 minutes 58 seconds to 14 minutes 40 seconds we talk about birth trauma
from 16 minutes 10 seconds to 17 minutes 56 seconds we talk about birth again
from 19 minutes 48 seconds to 22 minutes Phoxy speaks about her postnatal experience at the hospital and her son being in intensive care which may be upsetting

In this episode we speak about:

a bit about Phoxy and her life as a Mum, solo Mum, actress and as Phoxy Qurvy
how we're rushed/rushing from the moment we give birth and WHY we need to know we MATTER
what Burlesque can do for women and Mums
why feeling and looking FABULOUS can make a difference!
moving on from 'martyr Mum' and spending time on OURSELVES
the power of poetry and writing
misconceptions about burlesque(!)
body image and body confidence
Phoxy's latest act (and the why we can have behind a performance piece)
reprogramming the effects of abuse
navigating what others in our life may think about burlesque

Themes: solo motherhood, burlesque, birth trauma, postnatal care, matrescence, poetry,

We mention Zoe Charles, Regena Thomashauer, Minna Dubin (podcast #98), Dr Rebecca Moore and Eve Rodsky.

To learn more about Phoxy see here on Instagram. And here for her School of Burly.

At the end, I read a poem written by Nikita Gill.

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