The Terri Cole Show · Jun 2, 2026 · 22:23
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"It's fine." "I got it." "Don't worry about me." "I'll figure it out."
If you say one of these without thinking, several times a day, this episode is for you. These are the phrases that keep us stuck in high-functioning codependent behavior, and they sound generous. But there is an invisibility to what we are doing, and a cost.
These automatic behaviors are a nervous system response, habituated over years. As high-functioning codependents (HFCs), we react before we think, the moment a problem comes up. Learning to pause is the intervention. That moment before you say I got it is where the work happens, because on autopilot it is hard to change what comes out of your mouth.
Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/835