Ep. 171 Why Relatability Matters More Than Advice in Your Twenties

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You don't always need more advice. Sometimes you need someone who actually gets it.

In this episode, I'm talking about why relatability matters more than advice, especially when you're navigating your twenties. Because while the people who love you may have the best intentions, they aren't always living the same version of adulthood that you are.

I break down the difference between someone who can sympathize with what you're going through and someone who truly "gets it," and why having people around you who understand your specific context can make you feel less alone. We talk about friendships, relationships, career advice, finding a coach or therapist, and why different people in your life can serve completely different purposes.

• Why relatability can matter more than generic advice
• The difference between someone who sympathizes and someone who "gets it"
• How your life experiences shape the advice that's actually relevant to you
• How to find people who relate to your current season of life
• Why you shouldn't expect one person to understand every part of your life

This episode is for you if...

• You feel like the people around you don't fully understand what you're going through.
• You keep getting advice that doesn't actually resonate with your situation.
• You've grown apart from friends because you're on completely different life paths.
• You're struggling to explain why something feels so difficult when everyone else seems to think it's simple.
• You find yourself comparing your experience to people who are in a completely different season of life.
• You're looking for a coach, therapist, mentor, or community that actually understands your perspective.
• You want to build a stronger support system in your twenties.
• You're tired of trying to figure everything out by listening to people who haven't experienced what you're experiencing.

• You don't always need more advice; you need someone who understands your experience.
• Relatability isn't necessarily about age; it's about shared context and experience.
• The world changes, which means advice that worked decades ago may not work in the same way today.
• You shouldn't expect one friend, partner, parent, therapist, or coach to understand every part of your life.
• Ask people for advice when they're actually on the same road you're traveling.
• Having people who "get it" can make you feel less alone in experiences that otherwise feel isolating.
• As you move through different phases of life, the people who understand your current season may change.
• Find your people—the ones you don't have to constantly explain yourself to.

What does it mean for someone to "get it"?

Someone who "gets it" doesn't just sympathize with what you're experiencing. They have enough shared context or experience to understand what it actually feels like and can often offer guidance based on something they've personally navigated.

Why does relatability matter so much in your twenties?

Your twenties are filled with experiences that can be very different from person to person. Having people around you who understand your specific stage of life can help you feel less alone and make the advice you receive more relevant.

Does this mean I shouldn't listen to older generations?

No. The episode isn't about ignoring older generations. There is plenty to learn from people who have lived longer than you. The point is to recognize when you're looking for advice about navigating the world as it exists today, and seek out people who understand that current context.

How do I find my "Get It" people?

Start by looking for people who are navigating something similar to you or have recently navigated the road you're currently on. This could be a friend, mentor, coach, therapist, colleague, or community.

What if the people I love don't understand what I'm going through?

That doesn't necessarily mean they don't care about you. Someone can love you deeply and still not understand your current experience. Instead of expecting them to fill every role, look for additional people who can relate to the specific part of your life you're navigating.

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