Ep. 127 It's okay to be selfish... until it's not — how to twenty-something

In this episode, I talk about the fine line between being selfish in a healthy way… the kind that protects your energy and honors your needs and the kind that starts to isolate you or hurt the people around you.

In your twenties, everyone tells you to “put yourself first,” but few people teach you what that actually looks like in practice. So today, I unpack what it means to choose yourself without disconnecting from others, how to tell when your boundaries have become walls, and why true emotional maturity isn’t about always getting your way; it’s about being aware of your impact.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being selfish or just self-respecting, this one’s for you

Key Takeaways:

There’s a difference between protecting your peace and avoiding discomfort.
Boundaries should connect you to yourself and make space for others, not push everyone away.
“Selfish” isn’t always bad; sometimes it’s the first step toward learning what you need.
Emotional maturity is noticing how your choices impact the people around you.
Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you always come first.
Healthy selfishness creates balance; unhealthy selfishness creates distance.

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