2. 4 Reasons You Can't Eat Breakfast Until the Kitchen's Clean. Why Most Advice Won't Work — and the One Thing That Will.

Listener Question Episode: Bec drops the kids at school, the kitchen's a mess, and she can't let herself eat breakfast until it's clean. Loads the washing on too — wouldn't want to waste time. She finally sits down at 11am. She's wondering if it's an ADHD thing or if she's just weird. She's not weird. She's been trying the wrong strategy on the wrong problem for years.

What We Cover

• Bec's voicemail, the kitchen, the load of washing on while she eats, 11am breakfast
• Why "you deserve rest, mama" advice slides right off — and why feeling worse after reading it isn't a personal failure
• The four different drivers underneath one behaviour — same cry on the surface, completely different things going on inside
• A four-question audio quiz to figure out which one is the loudest in you
• Why every behaviour you're stuck in is meeting a need — and you can't change it until you know which one
• Why my dad and my 80-year-old grandma chainsawing down a tree while telling each other to sit down haunts me — and why I'm watching my daughter start to do it too
• The advice isn't wrong. It's just for the wrong problem.

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