37. The Grief After the Diagnosis: Why You Felt Flat When You Expected Relief (with Erica Lee)

Have you ever fought for years — the waitlist, the referrals, the appointments where nobody believed you — finally got the diagnosis, and then sat in the aftermath feeling nothing? Have you ever had everyone around you exhale and tell you how relieved you must be, while you felt flat, wrung out, and grieving something you couldn't even name — and then guilty, because didn't you get exactly what you asked for?

You're not ungrateful and you're not doing it wrong. There's a real thing that happens after the diagnosis you fought for, and almost nobody warns you it's coming. Erica Lee sat in it for nine years and wrote it down.

About the Guest

Erica Lee is a Western Australian educator and mother of two neurodivergent children. She's written a memoir about parenting through diagnosis, advocacy, and the emotional adjustment that follows — the flatness, the grief, and the fight that doesn't end at the answer. She speaks candidly about what motherhood actually looks like when the expectations shift and the support systems get tested.

Find Erica Lee’s memoir, The Bond Between Us - https://hawkeyebooks.com.au/products/the-bond-between-us-a-mother-s-journey-raising-two-neurodivergent-hearts

Website: https://www.ericalee.com.au/

Instagram: @ericalee_writes.

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