Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, sh...
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Sep 28, 2026 · 34:07
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about tricking guests into catering, giving bone-crushing handshakes, guessing American…
Sep 21, 2026 · 36:51
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle banning wedding gifts, lingering too long over menus, clipping toenails on airplanes, and much more. Please…
Sep 14, 2026 · 25:12
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about battling in cruise ship laundry rooms, escaping bad breath, duplicating potluck…
Sep 7, 2026 · 30:53
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Aug 31, 2026 · 50:53
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Aug 24, 2026 · 39:53
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using knife rests, spamming everyone you know, pocketing hotel slippers, and much more. Please follow us!…
Aug 17, 2026 · 31:21
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about lending fancy waffle makers, witnessing coffee shop meltdowns, demanding raisins…
Aug 10, 2026 · 42:02
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the lost art of "turning the table," finding lost wallets, boxing up free birthday desserts, and much more.…
Aug 3, 2026 · 23:29
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about vetoing unpleasant mahjong players, excluding free alcohol at birthdays, getting…
Jul 27, 2026 · 32:37
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spinning lazy Susans, saying "bless you" after sneezes, lying to telemarketers, and much more. Please follow…
Jul 20, 2026 · 33:31
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about driving coworkers home, asking about allergens, calling your husband by name, and…
Jul 13, 2026 · 30:55
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Jul 6, 2026 · 31:37
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Jun 29, 2026 · 42:34
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle motoring with manners, sharing the sidewalk, charging guests for pizza, and much more. Please follow us!…
Jun 22, 2026 · 31:09
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescinding weekend getaway invitations, staking unwanted yard signs, choosing the…
Jun 15, 2026 · 39:37
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the Danish flag, ducking out of weddings without saying goodbye, roasting in cocktail attire, and…
Jun 8, 2026 · 25:46
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ending endless brunches, dealing with double dippers, greeting bus riders, and much…
Jun 1, 2026 · 39:41
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking "Where is Brian?", living with homeowners associations, redirecting a birthday gift to a different…
May 25, 2026 · 46:09
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
May 18, 2026 · 31:16
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about finding cat hair in food, picking people's brains, CCing the wrong person, and much…
May 11, 2026 · 40:20
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle receiving black napkins in restaurants, squatting in strangers' kitchens, slurping smelly foods on…
May 4, 2026 · 27:35
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outrunning your friends, bragging about possum sweaters, renaming your coworkers,…
Apr 27, 2026 · 43:21
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle earning Girl Scout badges, washing strawberries in soda fountains, whisking away cake plates, and much more.…
Apr 20, 2026 · 19:15
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outing AI videos, evicting lingering guests, reserving paper towels, and much more.…
Apr 13, 2026 · 47:23
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle decoding different cultures, pursuing dry cleaners, blasting techno music, and much more. Please follow us!…
Apr 6, 2026 · 23:16
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Mar 30, 2026 · 39:33
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Mar 23, 2026 · 30:09
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaking phone numbers to strangers, venting about baby registries, requesting the…
Mar 16, 2026 · 1:26:50
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 300th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah count down their top ten favorite etiquette questions and much more. Please follow…
Mar 9, 2026 · 26:28
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about getting married on Fridays, putting in-laws to work, singing foreign national…
Mar 2, 2026 · 45:27
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle closing letters and cards properly, feeding finicky out-of-town visitors, blinding fellow drivers, and much…
Feb 23, 2026 · 25:52
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dropping state names, double-thanking for gifts, arriving early for funerals, and…
Feb 16, 2026 · 24:12
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Feb 9, 2026 · 34:01
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle herding sheep in Iceland, watching hockey games respectfully, hailing cabs in winter, and much more. Please…
Feb 2, 2026 · 25:32
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about handling forgotten Secret Santa gifts, noticing a coworker's new wig, gossiping…
Jan 26, 2026 · 41:01
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle El Colacho, asking callers to announce themselves, giving plants without pots, and much more. Please follow…
Jan 19, 2026 · 35:17
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dressing for galas when the invitation is vague, pushing in chairs after dining,…
Jan 12, 2026 · 41:33
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle apologizing in Mongolia, speaking for other people, lying to waiters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd…
Jan 5, 2026 · 26:11
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about enduring holiday dishes you dislike, managing ungrateful gift recipients,…
Dec 29, 2025 · 42:54
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Dec 22, 2025 · 40:46
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Dec 15, 2025 · 44:58
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle setting dessert cutlery correctly, attending New Year's Eve parties, deflecting donation requests, and much…
Dec 8, 2025 · 26:33
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about curbing phones at dinner, inviting near-strangers to baby showers, "participating"…
Dec 1, 2025 · 35:50
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle pluralizing names on holiday cards, tipping Mariachi bands, wrapping other people's gifts, and much more.…
Nov 24, 2025 · 28:15
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about offering unsolicited botox, photographing hospital patients, using pre-divorce…
Nov 17, 2025 · 43:09
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle adding "carriages" to invitations, making animal sounds at dinner, alleging underbaked brownies, and much…
Nov 10, 2025 · 27:26
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about selling soap to wedding guests, eating wine corks, tipping hospital valets, and…
Nov 3, 2025 · 43:26
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spotting Americans abroad, declining to go horseback riding, singing on airplanes, and much more. Please…
Oct 27, 2025 · 26:55
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about decoding what "Mountain Formal" means on a wedding invitation, pacifying picky…
Oct 20, 2025 · 38:15
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Oct 13, 2025 · 28:11
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Oct 6, 2025 · 35:00
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using a yubifuki in sushi restaurants, dining at Michelin-starred restaurants, calling strangers "pal," and…
Sep 29, 2025 · 27:29
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hosting surprise houseguests, correcting misspelled signs, sending late sympathy…
Sep 22, 2025 · 47:04
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bone dishes, enduring waiting rooms, texting wedding thank-yous, and much more. Please follow us!…
Sep 15, 2025 · 28:13
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dodging requests from mothers-in-law, playing unfortunate baby shower games,…
Sep 8, 2025 · 41:52
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using paper napkins in Italy, changing streaming service passwords on friends, hanging strangers your phone,…
Sep 1, 2025 · 13:30
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! It's our six year anniversary and we found a never-before-heard episode deep in the archives just for you. In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle…
Aug 25, 2025 · 29:27
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about overreacting to messy houseguests, skipping a close friend's wedding, wiping down…
Aug 18, 2025 · 41:21
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle getting to know Amy Vanderbilt, acknowledging mysterious gifts, retrieving lost phones, and much more.…
Aug 11, 2025 · 23:54
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescuing lost chips, taking over parties, correcting people's pronunciation, and…
Aug 4, 2025 · 40:11
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving seats in Singapore, avoiding unnecessary meetings, bringing your own sodas to parties, and much more.…
Jul 28, 2025 · 37:40
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pour water like wine, breaking up before weddings, tossing hair on flooors, and…
Jul 21, 2025 · 39:20
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle inviting thirteen guests to dinner, attending pool parties, hogging laundry machines in apartment buildings,…
Jul 14, 2025 · 27:54
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Jul 7, 2025 · 36:02
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Jun 30, 2025 · 31:11
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about abandoning dinner guests, running into former students, singing happy birthday, and…
Jun 23, 2025 · 47:19
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle responding to invitations formally, watching and playing tennis, dipping french fries, and much more. Please…
Jun 16, 2025 · 32:04
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about brushing your teeth in airport bathrooms, taking desserts from buffets, handling…
Jun 9, 2025 · 41:14
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flipping over cutlery, making friends in kindergarten, choosing cup holders at sporting events, and much…
Jun 2, 2025 · 39:47
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mowing laws without asking, coordinating invitation responses, dressing for theme…
May 26, 2025 · 44:29
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
May 19, 2025 · 43:04
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing Duck Duck Goose in Minnesota, sending out-of-office emails, taking free food samples, and much more.…
May 12, 2025 · 32:43
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pulling out chairs for others, sharing photos with AI, making unreasonable demands,…
May 5, 2025 · 37:32
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle seating dinner party guests, getting spray tans, using fake return addresses, and much more. Please follow…
Apr 28, 2025 · 26:21
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about scheduling appointments with "ish," chewing food while on the telephone,…
Apr 21, 2025 · 44:59
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle handling hot potatoes, claiming seats at buffets, talking during musicals, and much more. Please follow us!…
Apr 14, 2025 · 27:30
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Apr 7, 2025 · 38:50
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Mar 31, 2025 · 27:24
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about waiving back to someone by mistake, handling bad haircuts, separating your…
Mar 24, 2025 · 46:14
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacationing at all-inclusive resorts, demanding cash donations at weddings, using other people's Waterpiks,…
Mar 17, 2025 · 27:04
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bailing on bad accommodations, attending virtual housewarming parties, moving…
Mar 10, 2025 · 33:02
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle naming dogs in France, going to real estate open houses, reading books in bathrooms, and much more. Please…
Mar 3, 2025 · 27:05
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accepting unwanted packages, eating duplicate salads, celebrating letter openers,…
Feb 24, 2025 · 47:52
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle complaining in restaurants, backing out of weddings, taking people's airline seats, and much more. Please…
Feb 17, 2025 · 40:10
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Feb 10, 2025 · 27:15
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bringing ice to parties unprompted, ignoring Dungeon Masters' quests, texting at…
Feb 3, 2025 · 46:36
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle making introductions property, attending Super Bowl parties, avoiding bad salad dressings, and much more.…
Jan 27, 2025 · 25:18
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ignoring spouses on airplanes, sipping from cocktail straws, using napkins…
Jan 20, 2025 · 39:21
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering espresso in Italy, asking for a raise politely, deflecting rude questions, and much more. Please…
Jan 13, 2025 · 28:24
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about remembering wedding anniversaries, throwing yourself housewarming parties,…
Jan 6, 2025 · 36:02
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Dec 30, 2024 · 43:18
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Dec 23, 2024 · 28:18
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Dec 16, 2024 · 38:58
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle celebrating Christmas in Japan with fried chicken, tipping in coffee shops, showing gratitude for gifts, and…
Dec 9, 2024 · 28:20
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about gifting frozen vegetables, enjoying public restrooms, obsessing over necklaces, and…
Dec 2, 2024 · 44:26
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle experiencing Lucha Libre, perfecting guest rooms, spying on neighbors, and much more. Please follow us!…
Nov 25, 2024 · 25:47
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hiding from window washers, riding in rental cars, lowering toilet seat lids, and…
Nov 18, 2024 · 21:55
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of…
Nov 11, 2024 · 41:44
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going to Burning Man, staring at tattoos, sending extra holiday cards, and much more. Please follow us!…
Nov 4, 2024 · 26:09
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about handling stray hairs, backing out of dinner parties, tipping for strangers, and…
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