They Didn't Miss You, They Ran Out of Money: How Hoovering Actually Works — Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Future faking hoovering isn't a change of heart. It's a second round of grooming, aimed at exactly what the first round wanted.

In this highlight from Kerry's weekly live Q&A, she takes on what's actually happening when someone shows up with flowers, apologies and a raked pile of leaves after months of silence — and why the answer has almost nothing to do with you.

In this episode:
• Why not being hoovered is a read on what you had left to give
• Hoovering is a role vacancy, not a longing
• Love bombing and hoovering: one objective, two stages, two sets of tools
• Why "pathetic chasing behavior" isn't your flaw — it's how humans are built
• The two questions that decode any hoover: what do they need, and why now?

#Hoovering #FutureFaking #NarcissisticHoovering #NarcissisticAbuse #LoveBombing #NoContact #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #TraumaRecovery #HealingJourney

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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