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You can navigate a difficult conversation with your boss, calm down a frustrated friend, and explain exactly how you feel…so why does one sentence from your partner turn you into someone who suddenly can’t communicate at all?
Here’s the bombshell: You might not actually have a communication problem. Because the words aren’t the real problem.
In this episode, I’m joined by Brandy Buckner, M.S., LMFTA, marriage and family therapist at Growing Self, to expose what’s actually happening underneath those impossible conversations: the communication styles you inherited, the attachment reflexes that take over when you feel threatened, and the private story running through your head before you shut down or lash out.
You’ll learn:
Why great communicators completely lose each other at home
What’s really happening when one person pursues and the other shuts down
The hidden feeling underneath anger that changes the entire conversation
How to take a timeout without making your partner feel abandoned
What to tell yourself when every instinct says, Get me out of here
Why waiting for your partner to change keeps you both trapped
Because sometimes the breakthrough isn’t learning what to say. It’s finally understanding what’s happening inside both of you before anyone says a word.
And if you’re tired of having the same fight on repeat, schedule a free consultation with Brandy. She can help you change the pattern. She works with couples at Growing Self to uncover what’s happening beneath the conflict and build a relationship where you can actually hear, understand, and reach each other. Schedule a free consultation with her.
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self
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