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Sep 29, 2026 · 58:36
We begin the show...drunkenly. A lit lady enjoys the sensation of touching ears. Room temperature, or slightly chilled. Not too cold. But "ear porn?" Is that a thing? A lucky…
Sep 25, 2026 · 15:53
Just how polite are Canadians? Meet Owen, a Canuck whose good manners went above and beyond when he visited the red light district in Amsterdam. Name a lake after this guy! Tell…
Sep 22, 2026 · 49:30
Grapefruiting! It's a new sex act involving fruit! Can *any* word be verbed? Apparently! A woman wonders how anyone can successfully fake an orgasm, when the physical…
Sep 18, 2026 · 17:58
No words exchanged. He lying in a hotel bed. She enters and just watches. It was their first and only date. Rachel’s story proves that scheduled sex most certainly CAN be hot.…
Sep 15, 2026 · 45:49
Bummer! A man had just met with a male-female couple who wanted him to take part in a kinky three-way. But when he confessed that he sometimes has trouble coming, they cancelled.…
Sep 11, 2026 · 19:16
Meet Tom who went on a very special vacation with his girlfriend. Packing checklist: Kink outfits Consent Form Waste bag How did it go? You'll find out. Send us your stories,…
Sep 8, 2026 · 57:03
A man has been together with his boyfriend for 10 years. The caller works long hard hours and values peace and quiet when he comes home. But his boyfriend works from home all day…
Sep 4, 2026 · 16:24
Cat started a sex toy company, so she had to come out as kinky to friends and family. What she didn’t expect was the stampede of her mother’s boomer friends asking for product……
Sep 1, 2026 · 53:50
Any military lawyers in the house? A gay man and his boyfriend, both serving active duty, want to open their relationship. But infidelity is forbidden by military law. How risky…
Aug 28, 2026 · 18:38
Hey Everybody! Meet Jay- a pan, poly furry who, along with 15 other queer furries, met up for a "kink tasting, orgy event." What goes on at kink cabin? We won't say here, but…
Aug 25, 2026 · 51:56
A gay, married couple journeyed to Montreal to enjoy the services of a tantric masseur. And they REALLY enjoyed him. But did this open Pandora's box? How can they continue to…
Aug 21, 2026 · 17:30
After 22 years of marriage, well, it was just time. Hear Trix’s story about writing, filming and performing in her “queer adoring gang bang” story. And how she feels about the…
Aug 18, 2026 · 59:22
As this is a wholesome, family-focused show, we bookend the episode with parenting questions. First, a woman's 5 year-old nephew wants to wear a padlock around his neck. He saw…
Aug 14, 2026 · 20:42
Jade is normally a sub with her husband. But when she inserted the sounding rod into his urethra, did she really feel submissive? Really? It’s a journey… Tell us all about your…
Aug 13, 2026 · 45:52
Sex & Politics #46 Can we really change? Welcome to Sex & Politics!For this bonus episode, Dan chatted with Benoit Denizet-Lewis, an associate professor at Emerson College, a…
Aug 11, 2026 · 51:57
A woman in her 60s has a husband who is into feet. She's planning to get a professional foot massage. Can he come along and watch if he promises to hide his boner? A woman has a…
Aug 7, 2026 · 15:59
What’s it like for a trans man at a gay leather convention?Listen and you will find out… Tell us about your brave excursion. Write about your experience and send it to Dan:…
Aug 4, 2026 · 52:49
Her friend's new girlfriend stinks to high heaven. Is this intentional? Is it a kink? What would be the polite way to ask her to wash up? A woman with super-high libido is trying…
Jul 31, 2026 · 16:14
“He had a kiddy pool set up by the time we were there…” Meet Abe, who finally got to *immerse* himself in the world of gunge.You haven’t heard of gunge, you say? Simply press…
Jul 28, 2026 · 52:52
An intersex man had his urethra operated on when he was a toddler. Now he wants to try sounding but his doctors advise against it. He is suspicious of doctors after his…
Jul 24, 2026 · 18:57
Monica is a tried and true, old school Magnum sub. With Dan’s advice in her head, she applied to join a “foot night” where men pay to play…with women’s feet. Did Monica have a…
Jul 21, 2026 · 53:47
Ouch! A woman has been fisting her boyfriend to both of their delight. But guess what hurts: Her hand! How can she get in there comfortably? A woman is trying to convince both…
Jul 17, 2026 · 16:56
In one of the more graphic After Action Reports we’ve had the pleasure to relay, hear Mary’s story not of getting peed ON, but getting peed IN. Don’t worry. She has a “robust…
Jul 14, 2026 · 54:16
A lesbian with a pregnant wife is confounded and disgruntled at the way Pride celebrations can be a little too sex positive, especially if you have a little kid. Should Pride…
Jul 10, 2026 · 14:48
Have you ever bitten a dick? Like really hard?NO YOU HAVE NOT.She did. And he liked it. Listen in. If you’ve done something…shocking, and you want to tell us about it, send the…
Jul 7, 2026 · 57:43
A man in a poly relationship is worried that his penis smells like his girlfriend's vagina despite his meticulous hygiene practices. This doesn't bother him. But when he…
Jul 3, 2026 · 17:42
Did you know that they have bathhouses in Canada? They do!Meet Jay, married to his husband for 10 years, and ready for adventure.Even though he was nervous and his glasses kept…
Jun 30, 2026 · 56:26
A woman's hot boyfriend is being harassed by his upstairs neighbor who has come up with a novel way to summon him to his door. Our first guest is GI physician and friend of the…
Jun 26, 2026 · 22:57
Meet Maxon. Ho hum. Just your typical non-binary, exhibitionist, pre-op sub who has worn a titanium cock-cage constantly for over 850 days. If this sounds rather dull to you,…
Jun 23, 2026 · 57:06
A woman discovers her recently deceased father had a foot-tickling fetish and doesn't know how to process this new view of her dad. Speaking of kinks, a man with a diaper fetish…
Jun 19, 2026 · 13:42
Becca just needed to relax. So she thought she’d be like the gays and try poppers. How did it go? Listen and then you’ll know. If you’ve recently tried a new product or ingested…
Jun 16, 2026 · 51:05
A woman who enjoys multiple orgasms doesn't understand why, physiologically, all woman can't come over and over and over. Like she can. A gay man wants a new word for the…
Jun 12, 2026 · 16:39
Somewhere in Peru, 1,100 feet above the sea, a handsome masseuse in Peru offered our brave, queer woman weed, sensual massage and “yoni massage.” Seems sketchy, but he got lots…
Jun 9, 2026 · 49:27
A trans woman's friend is married to a Russian-born MAGA creep-o. But, plot twist! The Trump/Putin-lover is transitioning! It's hard for the caller to gin up sympathy for someone…
Jun 5, 2026 · 16:24
Ho hum. Threeway, marathon fuck session with a woman at a punk rock party. Sounds boring, right? But wait for it- this 3-way has a surprise ending. Surprise us! Write about your…
Jun 2, 2026 · 52:36
A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material.…
May 29, 2026 · 15:40
A man who wanted to confirm his hetero-flexibility gives his first BJ. But did he pass the cocksucker test? Not everyone does. Hear all about it. Want to share your first time…
May 26, 2026 · 50:30
This show is a roller coaster...of love. We start out with a heartbreaking question from a woman whose fiancé broke up with her after she had bought the dress and sent out the…
May 25, 2026 · 21:54
What a feel-good story for the ages. Victor managed to amass three sexual "firsts" in one potent session with a transwoman domme:Experience subspace- check.Have sex with a…
May 19, 2026 · 46:51
This just in! Man thinks he's special because he has a Madonna/whore complex! When a woman first started dating her boyfriend, he had a drinking problem, and made some bad moves.…
May 15, 2026 · 15:59
Anne thought that finding a professional to tie her up in exquisite Shibari bondage in her little, small town would be impossible. She was wrong! Hear all about her encounter in…
May 12, 2026 · 55:34
When he was a young homo, he was expected to rim his tops. Kids today want the top to rim the bottom! What gives? A straight man and his girlfriend keep taking "breaks" from the…
May 8, 2026 · 12:36
Ever wonder what it’s actually like to get a “happy ending” massage? Wonder no more. Just press play. Tell us a story: Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the…
May 5, 2026 · 50:40
A trans woman enjoys chastity play. But most cock cages use the testicles to keep the device in place. She had an orchiectomy for her gender affirming care, so what is she to do?…
May 1, 2026 · 18:05
Meet Spring and Nix or "Sprix" as they are called together. These foxy sex party veterans embarked on an adventure at a religious themed event that became a team sport. Somewhere…
Apr 28, 2026 · 55:56
A gay man's female friend is planning her wedding. But the relationship is already a disaster, and the caller does NOT approve of this union. Should he still help her choose a…
Apr 24, 2026 · 14:37
They say we don’t choose our kinks- our kinks choose us. But what if you get turned on by a mundane, routine experience most of us either just tolerate or even dread? Meet…
Apr 21, 2026 · 59:38
Sometimes the questions we get here at Savage Lovecast Industries™ are nothing but pragmatic. A man with a moldy home asks how he can properly dry his Fleshlight. Seems…
Apr 17, 2026 · 19:03
Meet Michael who with the help of “Gary” goes through the looking glass into the twilight world of the bisexual male. It all starts out with your typical, wholesome 100-guy…
Apr 14, 2026 · 56:36
A happily married lesbian is super turned-on by a male acquaintance's cologne. She barely knows the guy. So how can she ask him "What are you WEARING?" Here's a conundrum: a sub…
Apr 10, 2026 · 19:39
Meet Marie, a shrewd, savvy, former businesswoman who tried something new, and drives a hard bargain. Sex work! Foot fetishism! Mommy issues! This episode has it all. Surely, you…
Apr 7, 2026 · 52:33
A woman was invited to the bachelorette party for her co-worker's wedding, which required costly travel. She was presented with a bill to cover all of the expenses of the bride…
Apr 3, 2026 · 13:56
Meet Ember, a trans man who, after going to a few sex parties, decided to host his own. It turns out that normie dinner party etiquette and sex party etiquette is the same: DO…
Mar 31, 2026 · 55:17
On the Intro, a public service announcement regarding Log Cabin Republicans and MAGA gays: Don't Breed Em, Don't Feed 'Em. An Australian woman would like advice on pegging a…
Mar 27, 2026 · 18:43
Somewhere, deep in the woods in Holland, in cabins patrolled by volunteers, there's a very, very kinky gathering. Meet Tom, who indulged his new friend's girlfriend and helped to…
Mar 24, 2026 · 53:53
A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to…
Mar 20, 2026 · 18:55
Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall during a MFM threeway? Listen in as the F tells the tale. How did she set it up? What was it like when they first met and shook…
Mar 17, 2026 · 49:46
A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her…
Mar 13, 2026 · 16:56
Meet Trina, who indulged her dom's desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it? Listen and learn. Did YOU try something new to you, and want us know about it? Write it up and send…
Mar 10, 2026 · 55:41
Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and…
Mar 6, 2026 · 22:05
Vanilla. Straight. Cis. Monogamous. How could this story possibly be sexy?A monogamous couple tried a dual massage in a foreign country. Mirrors on the ceiling. Pillows on the…
Mar 3, 2026 · 1:03:23
When does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history,…
Feb 27, 2026 · 18:13
They designed, engineered and built their own fuck box. Dan's question: "So did you upholster it?" Hear all about it, how it fit into the sex party and whether they enjoyed it or…
Feb 24, 2026 · 55:18
A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers. A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of…
Feb 20, 2026 · 18:26
A woman wanted to try out her dollification kink. So, she and her butch girlfriend went to a lesbian sex party. You may be wondering what do they do to dolls at lesbian sex…
Feb 17, 2026 · 52:16
A concerned listener asks "Where's the lube?"-specifically about movie scenes showing gay sex. A woman in a red state makes it clear in her dating profiles that she is a leftie.…
Feb 13, 2026 · 17:46
Right after her ketamine infusion, she ran home as fast as should could. And then her boyfriend got busy... Have YOU ever seen the face of a lynx in the sky? Didn't think so.…
Feb 10, 2026 · 53:06
You poor, poor people. For Valentine's Day this year, we're going dark and airing some of your most unpleasant break-up stories. Like the woman who learned her husband was…
Feb 6, 2026 · 14:42
Some might consider Daniel a very lucky man. He brought one of his 4 girlfriends to a sex party where the men wore tuxedos and the women wore...nothing at all. Oh, and it was a…
Feb 5, 2026 · 26:21
Dan interviews, argues and politely spars with gay evangelical Christian Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian." Vines, who is married to his husband since 2022,…
Feb 3, 2026 · 55:38
Yip! Yap! Bite! A woman's little, nasty, needy dogs are anything but "comfort animals" and her girlfriend isn't having it. She refuses to move in with the caller while those tiny…
Jan 30, 2026 · 20:36
A swinging couple found a service that would fulfill their fantasy: a gang bang composed of men she chose. You may never think of gang bangs the same way again. Did you do…
Jan 27, 2026 · 52:22
Have we reached peak poly drama? A queer woman has been open with her male live-in partner, having lots of great sex with him and others. The problem? His cat won't pay any…
Jan 23, 2026 · 17:00
Louis, a self proclaimed cuddle-slut, found exactly what he wanted at the Liquid Love event. Hear ALL about it. If you have a SENSUAL tale to tell, scribble it down and send it…
Jan 20, 2026 · 44:49
What is the polite way to ask someone to clean their teeth and deal with their neglected oral hygiene? A man's girlfriend wants him to ignore her sexually, and focus exclusively…
Jan 16, 2026 · 17:40
A cautionary tale from Jennie who went to the sex club with an open mind and ended up with bruises on…well you’ll have to listen to find out what went wrong. We want to hear your…
Jan 15, 2026 · 1:05:36
Welcome to the first ever Sex and...Television! For those of you who are obsessed with the Canadian homo hockey romance Heated Rivalry, here's a convo for you. Dan and sex…
Jan 13, 2026 · 59:34
Happy New Year, and a very happy Feast of the Ass to you and yours. In honor of the holiday, our first caller asks if he should keep a cup of mouthwash handy for when he moves…
Jan 13, 2026 · 14:31
Christine and her husband went to a kinky viking party (as one does,) and had a very HOT time. "How attached are you to these nipple hairs?" If you have an amazing or appalling…
Jan 6, 2026 · 58:32
It's the 1000th episode of the Savage Lovecast. We started in 2006, when George W. Bush was President. And look at us now! We packed this show with as many quick questions as we…
Dec 27, 2025 · 14:20
Her needs were simple. She wanted to wear a trench coat with nothing underneath and to pretend to be a high-end escort for her boyfriend. He gladly obliged and their session was…
Dec 23, 2025 · 55:27
"Who will buy my smelly panties?" A woman realizes that it would be a waste to just wash them. A married man in an open relationship wishes his wife would be as affectionate as…
Dec 19, 2025 · 16:11
The scene: it's a secret threeway, upstairs at the party. 2 men, one woman, 2 minutes, one orgasm. To hear more salacious deets, tune in. We've heard of speed dating...but this…
Dec 18, 2025 · 53:27
Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31. A recent widow grapples with a surge in her libido. A gay man has been a top for all…
Dec 16, 2025 · 55:40
A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with…
Dec 15, 2025 · 21:07
Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31. It was her first time pegging a man, though she'd dreamed of it for years. Dream…
Dec 5, 2025 · 15:34
Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you…
Dec 2, 2025 · 55:19
It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Listen in on Dan's conversation with a woman who…
Nov 28, 2025 · 14:46
Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked. Want to…
Nov 25, 2025 · 1:03:07
We know you're struggling. So we brought in the most soothing human on the planet-Therapy Jeff- to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. In short,…
Nov 21, 2025 · 10:47
On this weeks After Action Report, Dan spoke with Milo, a trans man who tried nipple torture after getting top surgery. This is a joyful tale of sexual recovery. We hope you…
Nov 18, 2025 · 49:36
She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is…
Nov 14, 2025 · 18:35
For this After Action Report, Dan chats with Ember, a life-long sneeze fetishist. She gets turned on when her lovers sneeze, and thus, stocks up on imported sneezing powder. And…
Nov 11, 2025 · 1:01:53
A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but…
Nov 7, 2025 · 11:23
After Action Report #3 Squirting Kira This week, meet a woman who finally, after YEARS of persistence, has learned how to squirt. Practice makes perfect, and now she has mastered…
Nov 4, 2025 · 50:41
A woman's bisexual husband has been getting "gayer and gayer" to the point where he is only interested in her if she acts like a dude. Her friend is worried about her. How can…
Oct 31, 2025 · 12:16
On this week's After Action Report, a trans man made his way to his first furry party. He doesn't have a full suit yet, just paws, ears and a tail. For those in full fur suits,…
Oct 28, 2025 · 56:32
A woman's lefty friend berated her for enjoying drag, saying it's like blackface for trans women. The caller loves drag and had never thought about this before. Is it true? A…
Oct 24, 2025 · 10:55
Welcome to our first stand-alone After-Action Report! He got in a full body spiderman suit. And then the action began. Hear Dan chat with the man who took cos-play to a whole new…
Oct 21, 2025 · 55:03
A woman just started a dating a man 12 years her junior. But he doesn't know her age, and has never asked her, even on her birthday. Should she tell him? A couple were approached…
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