#255 - How to Stop Taking Everything Personally (And Protect Your Peace)

Y'all, we need to STOP taking everything so personally! 😂

I know. I KNOW. Easier said than done.

Because sometimes people say things that make you want to sit there and analyze every single word. Like, why did they say that? Why did they say it like THAT? What did I do?!

But here's what I've been reminding myself.

**Not everything people say or do to you is actually about YOU.**

Sometimes people are speaking from their own fears, insecurities, disappointments, or whatever they're dealing with that day.

And that doesn't mean their words can't hurt. It just means we don't have to carry all of it.

In this episode, I'm talking about learning to separate constructive criticism from somebody else's personal baggage.

We're getting into Broadway feedback, the people who tried to discourage me from moving to New York City, and a situation involving a bag of Cheetos that STILL makes me feel some feelings. 😂

I'm also sharing why I've become very intentional about protecting my peace and keeping unnecessary drama out of my life.

We're talking about:

- Why other people's reactions aren't always about you
- Learning to accept feedback without taking it personally
- How people's fears can influence the advice they give
- The lesson I remember from *The Four Agreements*
- Choosing compassion instead of immediately reacting
- Setting boundaries with people who repeatedly make you feel less than
- Why protecting your peace sometimes means walking away

And listen, I'm still working on this too!

There are messages sitting in my inbox that can trigger me before I even finish reading them.

But I'm learning to remind myself that somebody else's way of communicating doesn't have to determine how I feel about myself.

So here's my challenge for both of us.

Next time somebody says something that gets under your skin, ask yourself: Is this really about me?

And remember, you can have compassion for somebody without allowing their behavior to disturb your peace. ❤️

CHAPTERS:
00:00 When People Bet Against You

01:00 Stop Taking Things Personally

02:00 Understanding Other People's Reactions

02:40 Why I Welcome Broadway Feedback

04:00 When Criticism Feels Personal

04:20 Lessons From The Four Agreements

05:00 Why People Give Advice From Fear

06:00 Betting on Yourself and Showing Compassion

06:40 The Cheetos Story

07:30 Choosing Peace Over Drama

08:30 Not Everyone Deserves Your Energy

09:00 A Reminder Not to Take It Personally

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